Psychopathic Bevhaior 101
The below article has since been removed, but I think it serves as an excellent description of pathological behavior.
Scots internet rat used dating site to prey on terrified women across the world
Dec 29 2009 By Karen Bale
Grant McNee
FIVE terrorised women from different sides of the world have revealed how they fell victim to a Scots internet sex cheat.
And they spoke of their fears that twisted charmer Grant McNee has used the web to prey on dozens more women worldwide.
Flabby, red-faced McNee is an unlikely Casanova. He's unemployed and lives with his elderly mum in Larbert, Stirlingshire.
But he has used a dating website, plentyoffish.com, to snare lovers in South Africa, Canada and back home in Scotland.
McNee's victims tell chillingly similar stories of how he quickly turns from a loving boyfriend into a snarling, money-grabbing, drunken control freak.
He told two lovers he was an expert in disposing of bodies, and bragged to another that he had been trained to kill in the SAS.
The women say McNee, 43, took over their lives and fleeced them out of thousands of pounds while cheating on them with other conquests he met online.
And some say that after they dumped him, they or their friends received chilling email threats from a stalker known as the Grim Reaper.
Every time he found a new victim, McNee would tell her about his previous lovers.
His five exes used the clues he left to get in touch with one another. And they all want to warn other women to steer clear of the rat.
One of McNee's ex-lovers, South African Ingrid Blignault, 40, wept as she told the Record: "I still get the shakes when I hear his name.
"I call him the psychotic parasite. He should not be allowed to continue to do this to women."
McNee met driving instructor Ingrid in 2003 while living in South Africa and quickly moved in with her in Johannesburg.
But within days, he made her get rid of all her electrical gadgets and buy his for s3600.
And in the weeks that followed, McNee's behaviour became bizarre and frightening.
She said: "He stopped my friends from visiting me. If they did, he would swear at me and call me a lesbian or a -jezebel- in front of my children.
"He would not let the children show me affection or even sit beside me. He would send them to their rooms, slam doors and swear at them."
Ingrid said McNee spent every night drinking. She added: "He would taunt me all night. The minute I fell asleep he would wake me and shout at me.
"I shook at work and couldn't function. He used to call me up to 40 times a day and ask where I was and who I was talking to."
The final straw for Ingrid came after another woman came to her and confessed she had been seeing McNee.
He begged Ingrid's forgiveness but she insisted he go to a psychiatrist. And she was horrified by the expert's findings.
Ingrid said: "The psychiatrist phoned and told me my children and I were in danger.
"I was urged to quickly get a restraining order and physical protection."
The doctor also told Ingrid in a letter: "Mr McNee was suffering from bipolar disturbance. He needs medication.
"If he's not treated, this may result in aggressive behaviour. He should remain under specialised psychiatric care."
Terrified, Ingrid ordered McNee to get out of her house and her life.
She told our reporter: "He moved out next day while I was at work and took my kids' baby photos and all my belongings.
"He then called me every half-hour to abuse me. He said he was going to get his friend in England to come and kill me.
"He also gave my ex-husband death threats because he had told me about the other woman and got her to call me."
Ingrid and her ex-husband Colin called police on McNee in October 2003. He was not charged, and later left South Africa.
Even with McNee gone, Ingrid's ordeal was not over. She began to receive terrifying emails from an address with the username Grim Reaper.
Her tormentor told her: "I will come after you with everything I can. You're an easy target Ingrid and you are also a tramp.
"You're nothing but a -jezebel- and white trash. You're a f*****g bitch and most know it.
"I have friends in South Africa you wouldn't like to meet. The average Dutchman would gladly deal with you in a car park. Don't f*** with the buffalo, you sick bitch."
Before leaving South Africa, McNee had lined up another victim - English expat Henriette O'Bryan. He met her online in July 2003.
McNee proposed to the widowed mumof-one within four days and gave her a s5000 ring he had bought for Ingrid.
Henriette and McNee then moved back to the UK, where they lived in London and Chelmsford, Essex.
"I was taken in by his lies," said secretary Henriette, 41, who finally split from McNee in February 2006.
"I felt sorry for him. He told me his ex was a bunny-boiler. I was in love with him so I booked him flights to get him to the UK."
Within a few months, McNee was showing his true colours.
Henriette said: "When I was working, he phoned me twice an hour. And if I was out with friends, he called every 10 minutes. At first it was nice because he told me he couldn't live without me, but it soon became frightening.
"If we had a fight, he would say he'd been a diver in the Army and knew how to hide bodies in the ocean. I was terrified of him."
McNee began disappearing at weekends and Henriette became suspicious. She looked on his computer and found "eight or nine files for different girls he was seeing".
"I read the emails and just went ice-cold," she recalled. "I broke down and sobbed.
"But when I quizzed him he blamed me, saying I didn't give him enough attention."
Henriette gave McNee another chance and he persuaded her to pay off s16,000 of his debts. He also got her to transfer s7000 of her savings to his account.
McNee then packed Henriette off to South Africa to visit her mum, then promptly dumped her by text. She said: "I cried my eyes out. I'd been taken for a fool. I spent my life savings on him."
Henriette sued McNee last year and he was ordered to repay her s47,000. But he has since declared himself bankrupt and she fears she will never see her money.
McNee's next victim was Canadian Sarah Wilson, a single mum with two kids. He met her on the internet in August 2005, while he was still with Henriette.
Sarah was living in England at the time. But after she wed McNee in 2006, they set up home in the Canadian capital, Ottawa.
"He never proposed," said Sarah, 41, who works with people with special needs. "He just said, 'Let's get married' and sent me to buy the ring. It cost me s280.
"He brainwashed me and isolated me from my friends and family, then pushed and pushed for us to move to Canada.
"Then as soon as we were married, he stopped being affectionate and began drinking a bottle of Jack Daniel's every night."
Sarah said McNee constantly told her he had been a sniper and knew how to dispose of bodies. Then she learned her husband was a love cheat.
Sarah said: "He went back to the UK for a holiday and I later found out he'd met a girl on the internet while he was there. He began seeing her as soon as he got back.
"I found out about his cheating when I found messages on his computer, and I dumped him.
"I wanted to kill myself after I was destroyed by that monster.
"He terrorised me. He robbed me, cheated on me and left me a broken woman.
"In hindsight, I realised he only wanted to marry me to get into Canada. And after we split, I found out he was still with Henriette when we got together."
While Sarah tried to rebuild her life, McNee moved on to another victim, Canadian Stephanie Moines, 40. He met her in October 2007, again on his favourite dating site.
McNee moved into Stephanie's home within weeks and was soon sponging off her. He spent her cash on lobster dinners, champagne, strip clubs and porn, and ran up a huge credit card bill.
"He's very charming at first," said government worker Stephanie.
"He writes you love poems and tells you that you're the woman of his dreams. But within days of moving in, he's taken over. " McNee told Stephanie tales about being a former SAS soldier who had been held hostage in the Middle East.
But he was also honest for once, admitting "major addictions" to booze, sex and spending money.
Stephanie stuck with McNee and he rewarded her by betraying her. She found hundreds of calls to other women logged on his computer.
She said: "He was cheating on me with at least four women and begging at least a dozen others to meet him for sex."
Stephanie told McNee it was over and he responded with a vicious hate campaign.
She said: "He began calling me 30 times a day. He told me he was determined to destroy me, both professionally and personally.
"He was never physically violent but he threatened to cut my throat. When we broke up after 10 months, it felt like 10 years.
"This man completely depletes all your resources. He is a parasite.
"But he's his own worst enemy, because he tells each girlfriend about the others which let us get in touch with each other."
McNee moved back to Scotland and found another woman to prey on, hairdresser Heather Cupples, 38. He dated the mum-of-two from West Lothian for nine months, starting in January this year.
Heather said: "He was very pushy and would obsessively phone and text me.
"I'd had enough of him after a few months.
"Then my dad passed away and I moved in with my mum and Grant was furious. He was living with me at the time on a temporary basis.
"He began sending me nasty texts demanding I spent time with him.
"He left me 30 angry and abusive voicemails on the day of my dad's funeral."
Heather learned from McNee's computer in September that he was seeing a string of other women behind her back.
She said: "I spoke to this woman in London to warn her about Grant and it turned out she had been up here staying with him while I was seeing him.
"I was gobsmacked. He was planning to move in with her in a matter of weeks."
Heather took her revenge on McNee by arranging to meet him in a pub and handing him dozens of emails he had sent to one of his other lovers, all wrapped in a pink ribbon. He stormed out.
In recent weeks, Heather's ex-husband Jimmy, who is still friendly with her, has begun receiving sinister emails from the "Grim Reaper".
One message said: "Why would you want to be with someone who cannot keep her knickers on? She is truly a horrible creature."
When the Record approached McNee to ask him to explain his treatment of women, he sneered: "You can't prove anything. Write what you like."
HAVE you fallen victim to McNee? Email us at reporters@dailyrecord.co.uk or call us on 0141 309 3251.
Scots internet rat used dating site to prey on terrified women across the world
Dec 29 2009 By Karen Bale
Grant McNee
FIVE terrorised women from different sides of the world have revealed how they fell victim to a Scots internet sex cheat.
And they spoke of their fears that twisted charmer Grant McNee has used the web to prey on dozens more women worldwide.
Flabby, red-faced McNee is an unlikely Casanova. He's unemployed and lives with his elderly mum in Larbert, Stirlingshire.
But he has used a dating website, plentyoffish.com, to snare lovers in South Africa, Canada and back home in Scotland.
McNee's victims tell chillingly similar stories of how he quickly turns from a loving boyfriend into a snarling, money-grabbing, drunken control freak.
He told two lovers he was an expert in disposing of bodies, and bragged to another that he had been trained to kill in the SAS.
The women say McNee, 43, took over their lives and fleeced them out of thousands of pounds while cheating on them with other conquests he met online.
And some say that after they dumped him, they or their friends received chilling email threats from a stalker known as the Grim Reaper.
Every time he found a new victim, McNee would tell her about his previous lovers.
His five exes used the clues he left to get in touch with one another. And they all want to warn other women to steer clear of the rat.
One of McNee's ex-lovers, South African Ingrid Blignault, 40, wept as she told the Record: "I still get the shakes when I hear his name.
"I call him the psychotic parasite. He should not be allowed to continue to do this to women."
McNee met driving instructor Ingrid in 2003 while living in South Africa and quickly moved in with her in Johannesburg.
But within days, he made her get rid of all her electrical gadgets and buy his for s3600.
And in the weeks that followed, McNee's behaviour became bizarre and frightening.
She said: "He stopped my friends from visiting me. If they did, he would swear at me and call me a lesbian or a -jezebel- in front of my children.
"He would not let the children show me affection or even sit beside me. He would send them to their rooms, slam doors and swear at them."
Ingrid said McNee spent every night drinking. She added: "He would taunt me all night. The minute I fell asleep he would wake me and shout at me.
"I shook at work and couldn't function. He used to call me up to 40 times a day and ask where I was and who I was talking to."
The final straw for Ingrid came after another woman came to her and confessed she had been seeing McNee.
He begged Ingrid's forgiveness but she insisted he go to a psychiatrist. And she was horrified by the expert's findings.
Ingrid said: "The psychiatrist phoned and told me my children and I were in danger.
"I was urged to quickly get a restraining order and physical protection."
The doctor also told Ingrid in a letter: "Mr McNee was suffering from bipolar disturbance. He needs medication.
"If he's not treated, this may result in aggressive behaviour. He should remain under specialised psychiatric care."
Terrified, Ingrid ordered McNee to get out of her house and her life.
She told our reporter: "He moved out next day while I was at work and took my kids' baby photos and all my belongings.
"He then called me every half-hour to abuse me. He said he was going to get his friend in England to come and kill me.
"He also gave my ex-husband death threats because he had told me about the other woman and got her to call me."
Ingrid and her ex-husband Colin called police on McNee in October 2003. He was not charged, and later left South Africa.
Even with McNee gone, Ingrid's ordeal was not over. She began to receive terrifying emails from an address with the username Grim Reaper.
Her tormentor told her: "I will come after you with everything I can. You're an easy target Ingrid and you are also a tramp.
"You're nothing but a -jezebel- and white trash. You're a f*****g bitch and most know it.
"I have friends in South Africa you wouldn't like to meet. The average Dutchman would gladly deal with you in a car park. Don't f*** with the buffalo, you sick bitch."
Before leaving South Africa, McNee had lined up another victim - English expat Henriette O'Bryan. He met her online in July 2003.
McNee proposed to the widowed mumof-one within four days and gave her a s5000 ring he had bought for Ingrid.
Henriette and McNee then moved back to the UK, where they lived in London and Chelmsford, Essex.
"I was taken in by his lies," said secretary Henriette, 41, who finally split from McNee in February 2006.
"I felt sorry for him. He told me his ex was a bunny-boiler. I was in love with him so I booked him flights to get him to the UK."
Within a few months, McNee was showing his true colours.
Henriette said: "When I was working, he phoned me twice an hour. And if I was out with friends, he called every 10 minutes. At first it was nice because he told me he couldn't live without me, but it soon became frightening.
"If we had a fight, he would say he'd been a diver in the Army and knew how to hide bodies in the ocean. I was terrified of him."
McNee began disappearing at weekends and Henriette became suspicious. She looked on his computer and found "eight or nine files for different girls he was seeing".
"I read the emails and just went ice-cold," she recalled. "I broke down and sobbed.
"But when I quizzed him he blamed me, saying I didn't give him enough attention."
Henriette gave McNee another chance and he persuaded her to pay off s16,000 of his debts. He also got her to transfer s7000 of her savings to his account.
McNee then packed Henriette off to South Africa to visit her mum, then promptly dumped her by text. She said: "I cried my eyes out. I'd been taken for a fool. I spent my life savings on him."
Henriette sued McNee last year and he was ordered to repay her s47,000. But he has since declared himself bankrupt and she fears she will never see her money.
McNee's next victim was Canadian Sarah Wilson, a single mum with two kids. He met her on the internet in August 2005, while he was still with Henriette.
Sarah was living in England at the time. But after she wed McNee in 2006, they set up home in the Canadian capital, Ottawa.
"He never proposed," said Sarah, 41, who works with people with special needs. "He just said, 'Let's get married' and sent me to buy the ring. It cost me s280.
"He brainwashed me and isolated me from my friends and family, then pushed and pushed for us to move to Canada.
"Then as soon as we were married, he stopped being affectionate and began drinking a bottle of Jack Daniel's every night."
Sarah said McNee constantly told her he had been a sniper and knew how to dispose of bodies. Then she learned her husband was a love cheat.
Sarah said: "He went back to the UK for a holiday and I later found out he'd met a girl on the internet while he was there. He began seeing her as soon as he got back.
"I found out about his cheating when I found messages on his computer, and I dumped him.
"I wanted to kill myself after I was destroyed by that monster.
"He terrorised me. He robbed me, cheated on me and left me a broken woman.
"In hindsight, I realised he only wanted to marry me to get into Canada. And after we split, I found out he was still with Henriette when we got together."
While Sarah tried to rebuild her life, McNee moved on to another victim, Canadian Stephanie Moines, 40. He met her in October 2007, again on his favourite dating site.
McNee moved into Stephanie's home within weeks and was soon sponging off her. He spent her cash on lobster dinners, champagne, strip clubs and porn, and ran up a huge credit card bill.
"He's very charming at first," said government worker Stephanie.
"He writes you love poems and tells you that you're the woman of his dreams. But within days of moving in, he's taken over. " McNee told Stephanie tales about being a former SAS soldier who had been held hostage in the Middle East.
But he was also honest for once, admitting "major addictions" to booze, sex and spending money.
Stephanie stuck with McNee and he rewarded her by betraying her. She found hundreds of calls to other women logged on his computer.
She said: "He was cheating on me with at least four women and begging at least a dozen others to meet him for sex."
Stephanie told McNee it was over and he responded with a vicious hate campaign.
She said: "He began calling me 30 times a day. He told me he was determined to destroy me, both professionally and personally.
"He was never physically violent but he threatened to cut my throat. When we broke up after 10 months, it felt like 10 years.
"This man completely depletes all your resources. He is a parasite.
"But he's his own worst enemy, because he tells each girlfriend about the others which let us get in touch with each other."
McNee moved back to Scotland and found another woman to prey on, hairdresser Heather Cupples, 38. He dated the mum-of-two from West Lothian for nine months, starting in January this year.
Heather said: "He was very pushy and would obsessively phone and text me.
"I'd had enough of him after a few months.
"Then my dad passed away and I moved in with my mum and Grant was furious. He was living with me at the time on a temporary basis.
"He began sending me nasty texts demanding I spent time with him.
"He left me 30 angry and abusive voicemails on the day of my dad's funeral."
Heather learned from McNee's computer in September that he was seeing a string of other women behind her back.
She said: "I spoke to this woman in London to warn her about Grant and it turned out she had been up here staying with him while I was seeing him.
"I was gobsmacked. He was planning to move in with her in a matter of weeks."
Heather took her revenge on McNee by arranging to meet him in a pub and handing him dozens of emails he had sent to one of his other lovers, all wrapped in a pink ribbon. He stormed out.
In recent weeks, Heather's ex-husband Jimmy, who is still friendly with her, has begun receiving sinister emails from the "Grim Reaper".
One message said: "Why would you want to be with someone who cannot keep her knickers on? She is truly a horrible creature."
When the Record approached McNee to ask him to explain his treatment of women, he sneered: "You can't prove anything. Write what you like."
HAVE you fallen victim to McNee? Email us at reporters@dailyrecord.co.uk or call us on 0141 309 3251.