One of the underrated things about college
is the way it ruins relationships.
Seriously, because of the sheer enormity of the student body in college, you pretty much meet people of many different backgrounds and it changes you a lot within the first few days. No wonder they say college robs you of your innocence. (Oh, Kenny)
Then before you know it you’re really out-of-sync with your partner, and all these changes in your life lead to huge fights with your partner, and then you go and seek relationship advice from people. And these people will listen to you, and ask you things like “have you talked about your feelings?” because, you know, most fights are a result of misunderstanding. It’s all about communication.
Or, if you’re the wrong party, they’ll tell you that you’re overreacting, and that you should calm down and sleep on it for a bit. In fact, your best friend who would tell you everything, would say that You’re Making a Huge Mistake, What the Hell Do You Think You’re Doing, and You Should Apologise, Like, Now.
But when you’re actually in the right, some people like to just sympathise with you and not say anything while you rant all your feelings out. Or, if they really want to step on your toes, they’ll tell you that your partner is a jackass / bitch and that he / she ought to be so grateful because you’re the best he /she could ever have. (If your partner is a girl, sometimes the menstrual cycle is pulled into it. Yes, because hormones change everything.)
What they don’t do is tell you to break up because he / she is a jackass / bitch and you’ve reached a fork in the road and “breaking up is the right prong” (Will and Grace, Season 1 Episode 1). This is a cardinal rule because, really, breaking up is a question only brought up by you or your partner, and putting these thoughts into your head is not bitchy or spiteful but just plain evil. Not to mention it’s none of their business anyway.
It doesn’t matter if you’re the one who brings up break up and they’re the ones who egg you on.
But to put the idea in your head… that takes someone who’s either really close to you, or a little immoral.