Immune from baby-rabies
So I had a Dr's appointment today to discuss a few things, one of which that I have no problem talking about is getting myself sterilized. I'll be able to get a referral from her, no problem. She advised that getting a gyno to actually do it might be another matter, but I'll wrestle that bridge when I get to it. Right now, I'm waiting for her to get back to me with someone I can schedule a consultation with.
But it got me thinking about how hard it is for females of "prime childbearing age" to obtain permanent sterilization.
You don't have to like it or agree with it. Rarely do I feel so strongly about something, but this is just something I have to vent. I have something to say, I'm saying it.
It absolutely infuriates me that anyone else should have any say over what I can or can't do to my body. Who the hell are you (any Dr. who would say this, which is common) to say that I might change my mind and shouldn't have it done? If I'm paying for the procedure, someone better fucking help me. It's none of anyone else's concern if I may or may not change my mind, IF (unlikely, I daresay impossible) I ever do change my mind, that's MY problem, Not Yours.
I don't want kids. I don't like kids. I don't have a maternal bone in my body. I don't have the urge to cuddle babies. You don't want to know what urge I *do* have when I hear a fussy baby. And since I am quite well aware of this about myself, I know I should never ever have children. (there are many Many other reasons I don't want kids, but this is a primary one)
Think that the urge to have children is determined by if I ever find "Mr. Right"? If I end up with someone who wants kids? ... well, I'm afraid that my "Mr. Right" is also childfree and wouldn't want them either. Wanting kids would be a huge dealbreaker, so sorry.
I want to be sterilized, permanently. I hope I find someone who will be able to help me with this. I'm sure there will be a follow up to this topic after I've been able to discuss with a Dr. who could help. Whoever I get to talk to about it might have to deal with that dragon side of me if they try to change my mind.
To be clear, I have nothing against people who Do want or have kids. (as long as they're actually trying to be a parent about it, but that's another long rant that is better left alone) I believe that there are people born into this world who just do not, and never will, have the urge to breed. Just as people may or may not like the taste of tomatoes, or like the color blue but hate red. There are things about people that define who they are to their core that cannot be helped or changed. I believe they're often just born with that innate preference, urge, or lack thereof, and it's just the way it is.
But it got me thinking about how hard it is for females of "prime childbearing age" to obtain permanent sterilization.
You don't have to like it or agree with it. Rarely do I feel so strongly about something, but this is just something I have to vent. I have something to say, I'm saying it.
It absolutely infuriates me that anyone else should have any say over what I can or can't do to my body. Who the hell are you (any Dr. who would say this, which is common) to say that I might change my mind and shouldn't have it done? If I'm paying for the procedure, someone better fucking help me. It's none of anyone else's concern if I may or may not change my mind, IF (unlikely, I daresay impossible) I ever do change my mind, that's MY problem, Not Yours.
I don't want kids. I don't like kids. I don't have a maternal bone in my body. I don't have the urge to cuddle babies. You don't want to know what urge I *do* have when I hear a fussy baby. And since I am quite well aware of this about myself, I know I should never ever have children. (there are many Many other reasons I don't want kids, but this is a primary one)
Think that the urge to have children is determined by if I ever find "Mr. Right"? If I end up with someone who wants kids? ... well, I'm afraid that my "Mr. Right" is also childfree and wouldn't want them either. Wanting kids would be a huge dealbreaker, so sorry.
I want to be sterilized, permanently. I hope I find someone who will be able to help me with this. I'm sure there will be a follow up to this topic after I've been able to discuss with a Dr. who could help. Whoever I get to talk to about it might have to deal with that dragon side of me if they try to change my mind.
To be clear, I have nothing against people who Do want or have kids. (as long as they're actually trying to be a parent about it, but that's another long rant that is better left alone) I believe that there are people born into this world who just do not, and never will, have the urge to breed. Just as people may or may not like the taste of tomatoes, or like the color blue but hate red. There are things about people that define who they are to their core that cannot be helped or changed. I believe they're often just born with that innate preference, urge, or lack thereof, and it's just the way it is.