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[cubnurse]

Just to let everyone know, my mother died this past Saturday from complications of a very rapidly progressing form of cancer called myosarcoma (muscle cancer). According to my aunt, she suffered minimally and was comforted into her death, which says to me she had excellent palliative care

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[one_nightstand]

My mom died when I was 31. I had a huge fight with my father the night before the funeral. I almost didn't go.

Funerals are for the people that are living, not the dead. It's a closure thing. If you go, the emotions run high, and for at least 15 minutes, people usually put aside their stupidities.

If you go, do not bring the husband. While you want him there for you, remember your father and the rest of the family are grieving.

It might do you some good to get closure with the whole family tho. See your mom burried (you will regret it for years if you don't), show her your respects, and if need be, get into a screaming match with your relatives that don't approve of you. Let some of the anger building up out.

[cubnurse]

Thanks for the support hon...sorry it has taken me so long to get back and thank you. I did not go, but I always have evey memory of my family with me, no matter what time or place. Closure has occurred on my terms, in my mind, and with the help of my friends and "family". Thanks again for your support.

[travelingcub]

Oh dear I am so sorry.

[peppabear]

I think you should go. *HUGS*

[wickedone73]

They are having a memorial service, she was cremated we think. He can remember her anywhere he wants and doesn't need a church filled with hostile family members to do it.

[cubnurse]

Thanks for your advice E. i did not go, but I feel I made the right decision for me. I still thank you for your advice. As I said, it was not for sympathy, just to get the feelings out. Trust me, they are out now. With the help of my friends and my real family, I have closed that chapter in life, and am now moving on the bigger and better things (2 months and 2 weeks until graduation from Nursing)!!!!

[bearland]

My mother passed away in 1999 due to a brain anurism (sp), she was 56. She and I had always been very close, so much so, that she was actually the one who outed me. She loved David very much, even introduced him as her son-in-law.

When I came out, she told me that she wanted to tell my father. The conversation went like this:

Mom "I have some good news and some bad news"

Dad "okay what is the good news?"

Mom "Your son is Gay"

Dad "Then whats the bad news?"

Mom "I had an affair when you were in Vietnam, and your daughter actually belongs to someone else"

I miss her...She would be 63 this Sept 27th, the day before I turn 34 on the 28th.