Twins, Friendships, and the Norm.

[crystalineskier]

I guess right now i just feel quite weird about my life. Being a twin is abnormally hard, and i really doubt anyone can understand that doesn't wake up and see themselves, not in the mirror, but standing 10 feet away. It's like i've got another me starting at me in the face, talking to the same people as me, having the same friends as i have...it

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[mstrkingdom]

Yeah....I'd like to put into plainer terms what Nathan and Lia have both said....that little fucker who calls you Jonick is a real bastard.

Now to make some actual, real comments.....

I'm really sorry about how you feel about being called Jonick. I never meant it as something to mesh you and Nick into one life, one personality, one person. When I origionally coined the term, I intended to use it as an easier way to say "Nick and Jon" or "the Danforths" because, well, it was easier. I'd only meant to use it when talking about who was at a party, or who went somewhere or did something when both of you were there. It was just something to refer to the both of you. It seems, though, that the word has changed its purpose to refer to there only being one of you, and for that, I am truly sorry.

From about "but if someone's talking to Nick" to the end of that first paragraph, if you replace "Nick" with "somebody else" you practically describe my life. I know where you're coming from, and know some of the feelings you're having. I can't possibly know what it's like to have a twin brother there, but for me, it's not a twin, but everybody else I know. Trying to live in the shadow of others. You're not estranged from the group, not removed at all. People actually like you, and enjoy your presence, a luxury I haven't yet afforded.

If you ever need to talk to someone, you know where I am, how to reach me. I may not be the best person to talk to, in fact, I'm probably the worst fucking person to be giving advice now, but if I can help in any way, I'll try.
--Kris--

[nato64]

Kris, it doesn't matter if your the best person to talk to about advice or not, it's the fact that your trying. Which shows that you care. And that is the main thing when someone is giving advice to another person. Showing you care is a very powerful force in the world and many people don't understand how much of an impact that a small comment like "Well you know I care about you," has on someone.