Greg

[cruithear_lorr]

I've decided to use this more because I need to vent and to get advice about my private life. Particularly because my life just fucked me over this week.

Comments

[vyrdaeom]

First off, *hugs*.

I'm not going to repeat the stuff we already talked about, but rather...

I think you should tell Sean, with the edited name out. More than likely she'll be too much of a coward to admit it, or admit who so you wouldn't have to worry about Greg being singled out, but if she does admit it, it'll prove that she was using Greg to get back at Sean.

But I also think Sean deserves to know because, as you said, what Greg's doing isn't right. IMO I think Monika *is* using him and he's, stupidly, falling for it.

ETA: what if the reason why Sean didn't want her hanging out with guys isn't because he was trying to be controlling, but rather because he knows her history and that is of doing shit behind her boyfriend's back? I won't say for me personally, but I can see why someone would be wary of that. Of course, if it is controlling, it's still not right because it's a) controlling and b) only pushes the person into doing the exact opposite of what you want because it is controlling, whether through their own ideas or

[kraovaen]

If not physically cheating I consider his actions "emotionally cheating". The fact he would do that to YOU and then casually not mention it (aka lying and pulling wool over your eyes) is pretty shitty. It sounds like he is hopping from one thing to the next and maybe that is because of the distance. It certainly is odd behavior and if he was stressed and lonely he could always contact you. Send an email, a text, anything to try and gain comfort from someone who is there for him. Going to someone else, especially a girlfriend, to me screams that he is interested in her to begin with. :|

I think how you handled it is way better than I would have been. I tend to be a bit of a firecracker. It takes a bit to set me off but when I do it's pretty explosive, lmao. <3 His monotone and lack of trying to defend himself and/or fight for your relationship means he is nonchalant about losing it. Which speaks as though it doesn't matter. Which sucks. Just know it is not YOU throwing this away, it's him. You've been more than understanding and a lot

[rainy_days06]

-hugs!- I have no other words of "wisdom" so to speak (other than what I said the last couple of times we talked). I'm sorry that you're going through this bebe, I know things won't get better right away but they will get better soon, just remember that. You can always talk to me whenever you need to. Like Keth said - you've always got your friends here for you.

[cruithear_lorr]

Really? I'm glad it interests someone. I did tell the boyfriend, but I censored Greg's name and told the boyfriend that I couldn't say they physically cheated because I didn't have proof. But yeah, I told him everything else they were doing behind his back.