Comments | cris: whiskey priest

cris

whiskey priest

Oct 10, 2011 19:36

I had been seated at the bar on Craigie on Main for an hour. I was on my second cocktail. The notebook was open in front of me. Pen to the side. I needed to rest my hand because it isn't accustomed to writing with a pen anymore, and it cramps easily. I needed to sort out how to write without being distracted by the Internet, so I've gone back ( Read more... )

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panzerkunst October 11 2011, 00:49:26 UTC

Nice!

I can also relate to being out of practice with actual writing vs. typing (do they actually teach handwriting in schools anymore??). I still have a paper journal for things I would never put on LJ, but that now averages an entry like once per season.

badriyaz October 11 2011, 01:18:50 UTC

beautiful :-)

(what kind of whiskey priests? this is Boston, do you need to ask? ;-)

dancer October 11 2011, 21:26:18 UTC

This! I can attest to that, given my time working at St. Patrick's rectory. ;)

In all seriousness, well done Cris!

amadea October 11 2011, 03:34:05 UTC

*tears up*
Also:
I've loved how Vedic Hindu weddings have a rite where all of the married women are invited to whisper bits of advice into the bride's ear
MAN NOW I WISH WE'D DONE THAT

spitcurl October 11 2011, 15:46:30 UTC

Very fine words indeed. Thank you for sharing!

We tried to get Ayun to say, "You know, for kids." when she spoke about the rings being a circle, though that Hudsucker Proxy reference would have probably only been funny to the two of us, plus Andy.

The rings themselves had no meaning to either of us when we were buying them, but quickly developed sentiment in the wearing. Right after the wedding, we started fist-tapping WonderTwins-power-activate style, in a sort of Go Team! gesture. Additional rituals, reflections, and infused meanings have quietly grown, which I expect will continue over time.

The simplicity of the object, and all the countless ways that the tangible can become meaningful and personal, is quite brilliant. I'm not sure many other objects have quite the universal and yet diverse appeal as the ring.

I imagine the rings M & T wear will symbolize everything kitties and zombie-hunters have in common, with intimate thoughts none of us are privy to. Which is pretty rad.

cris October 11 2011, 20:33:06 UTC

The simplicity of the object, and all the countless ways that the tangible can become meaningful and personal, is quite brilliant. I'm not sure many other objects have quite the universal and yet diverse appeal as the ring.
dude, if you don't mind, I'm totally going to work that into the next ceremony that I might do if someone else asks me to officiate.

... cause, yeah, I like that.

spitcurl October 12 2011, 12:12:18 UTC

well then, *I* would be honored!

*hug*

ayun October 12 2011, 16:18:13 UTC

First: AWWWWWWWWW.

Now that I've been through this process once myself, it's fun to compare notes. I dredged up a lot of my oldold writing habits too - I wrote most of my senior thesis one line at a time on a receipt pad I kept in my back pocket during 1369 shifts. J&R's ceremony was on a few pages torn from various hotel notepads for the longest time.

My favorite part of the process was getting R to tell me his version of stories I already knew well from J's perspective, even though I don't think any of it ended up in the final version of the ceremony.

Good on you for writing something totally original for the 'process' parts of the ceremony. J found some canned stuff that I tweaked for them.

cris October 12 2011, 19:47:07 UTC

I've tweaked some stuff from the internet before, but the core of this particular ceremony and its philosophy of "a church of peers" came from a thing that I sketched out on a notepad ten minutes before liza & dfan's wedding; and it's been something that I've been adding on to and mulling around as I've been to other weddings.

so on the topic of comparing notes, and also as a fellow 'project person', did you do requirements gathering? maybe manage some scope creep? circulate drafts of a project\wedding charter for signoff\client acceptance? or was that just me?

ayun October 12 2011, 21:38:18 UTC

"Church of peers" is an excellent way to phrase it. It has definitely been a theme at all the lay-officiant weddings I've attended, and my favorite weddings have always acknowledged that the guests are there not as audience, but as participants who all play meaningful roles in the lives of the couple. I like the community aspects of weddings in general. It's good to celebrate and formally support each other ( ... )