why don't you go back to your home on whore island?

[crimson_ice77]

Okay girls (& guys) I need some advice on this one. Brandon has a friend named Kerry who is a close personal friend of his. Now I don't have a problem with my boyfriend having friends that are girls- that's stupid. What I don't like however, is when Kerry says things like, "too bad you're gonna leave her (me) for me when I come to GV next fall." Or

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the best advice i can give: stay calm...

[aquachica5]

ok, i've been in this kind of situation multiple times, but usually i'm always on the other side of the fence. i'm just one of those girls that get along with guys better than other girls, so i've always had a lot more guy friends than girl friends...ANYWAYS (although my guy friends NEVER acted like this bitch is...) it still bugged my boyfriend(s). the best affect for me was to just stay calm. if you get angry when you talk to him about it, he'll take it personally and feel like you're attacking him and his friend. play the victim. don't even let your anger come through in your voice. use "i" and not "you" for instance..."i feel really uncomfortable when she makes comments like that." rather than "you shouldn't encourage her to make comments like that." (u get the picture, hopefully?) tell him that you would appreciate it if he were to take a step in your shoes, put himself in your position. that it would mean a lot if he could respect your feelings and tell his friend to back down. try not to pull the "i did it for you" (even though it's perfectly legit) it will make him feel like he's obligated to ditch his friend (even though he kind of is...) it's all about word play. get him to do what you want, without letting him realize that you're giving him directions rather than just talking about YOUR feelings. remember : "i" and "my" rather than "you" and "your", it will go a long way...i know we don't really know each other...but i hope i've helped some. let me know. good luck!

Re: the best advice i can give: stay calm...

[aquachica5]

ps if he still doesn't shape up even after all that, and doesn't have the respect for you to see your side of things...it's time to think about kicking him to the curb!
easier said than done...i know...