kinda funny, but makes perfect sense...
i stole this from shellie...
"If somebody wants to walk out of your life, let them go. ESPECIALLY if you know you've done everything you can do. You sat around and have been the best man or woman you can be, and they still want to go? Just let them go. Whatever they are running after, they'll see what they had in a minute. But by then, its gonna be too late. 2 or 3 years from now you're not even going to remember their last name. How many times have you seen folks somewhere and you were like, "What the HELL was I thinking? What was WRONG with me... What was I going through? I must have been LONELY AS HELL to hook up with you!"
Let folks go.
Some people come into your life for a lifetime and some come just come for a season. You just need to know which is which... and you're going to always mess things up... you'll mix seasonal people up with lifetime expectations. Thats why you've got people who married people when they were only supposed to be with them for a season... and now they wonder why they are having so much hell in their life. Cuz that was a person who was supposed to be in their life to teach them just one thing. They didn't know it and they fell in love with that person... and now they wonder why they don't have peace anywhere they go.
You see, I put everybody who comes into my life into a category of a tree. Some people are like leaves on a tree, the wind blows them over here... they're unstable... they blow the other way... they're unstable again... then the seasons change weather and they die and they're gone. Its alright though. Some people, no, MOST people in the world are like that. They're there to take from the tree and thats the only reason they're around... and to give shade every now and then. That's all they can do. But don't get mad at people like that... that's who they are. They'll never be nothing else. That's why they were put on the surface to be what they are... just a leaf.
Then some people are like a branch on the tree. But you got to be careful with those branches too, because boy will they will fool you. They'll make you think they're a good friend and real strong, but the minute you step out there on them, they'll break and leave you HIGH AND DRY.
But you see, if you find 2 or 3 people in your life, that are like the roots at the bottom of that tree, consider yourself very very blessed. Because those are the kind of people who are going NOWHERE... they aren't worried about being seen... and nobody needs to know that they know you... and nobody needs to know what they are doing for you. But if those roots weren't there, then that tree couldn't LIVE, you understand? And then you got the whole thing... a tree that can hold a hundred million branches but only a few roots down at the bottom to make sure its getting everything it needs. I'm telling you, when you got some roots, HOLD ONTO THEM. But the rest of it? Let it go... just let it go... LET THOSE FOLKS GO.
Nobody told you it was going to be easy, but it will get easy when you learn how to love YOURSELF. When you get to a point in your life when you look at people and go, "Ok wait a minute, you or me?". You will make a decision. And I've never in my life just thrown somebody away - like as in, "Just look-a-here, don't bother me no more... don't talk to me no more"... I've never done it. What I DO is say "Look, this thing your doing right here? That's going to cause a problem. You need to fix yourself. If we are going to be friends and going to be cool, then you need to fix things. And if you don't, then we are always going to have an issue". If you see somebody fix it or even TRYING to fix it... that's somebody who cares. Keep those people around. That's a leaf that's trying to grow up and be something else. BUT if you tell somebody "What you're doing is HURTING me and I need you to STOP" and they just keep doing it? They DON'T care. MOVE ON. Let them go. No matter how much it hurts, just let them go. And it will get easier... I promise you... every day it will get easier and easier and easier. You just got to make it through, you understand? And see, you got to learn to be by YOURSELF. People need to learn to be alone. I don't understand all these people saying, "I need somebody... Lord where's my man, Lord where's my woman?" That is crazy as hell. If you don't know how to be by yourself, then how are you going to be with somebody else? Stop worrying about it. Shut up and wait. Go work on YOU. Hell, that's what that time is for, to get yourself together. I'd rather be in a corner by myself with a puppy and a goldfish and be happy, then be sitting around with somebody in my house unwanted, and wondering what the hell they are there for. You would be surprised with some of the things people put up with just to have somebody to say they love them. That's crazy. I don't understand them. I can't live in dysfunction, I am sorry. I've come through too much... been through too much hell and high water to come this far, and then let you come up in my adult life when I am SAPPOSED to be in peace now but you give me all kinds of hell. There are two places on this earth where you are going to have peace... the grave and your house. Now, if you can't walk up into your house and have peace, then something is wrong. Something is wrong, I'm sorry. People go off rebuking Satan, well you need go off rebuking Satan and then beating the hell out of everything else that won't let you have peace...You hear? Thats just ridiculous. Let things like that go."
~Tyler Perry
"If somebody wants to walk out of your life, let them go. ESPECIALLY if you know you've done everything you can do. You sat around and have been the best man or woman you can be, and they still want to go? Just let them go. Whatever they are running after, they'll see what they had in a minute. But by then, its gonna be too late. 2 or 3 years from now you're not even going to remember their last name. How many times have you seen folks somewhere and you were like, "What the HELL was I thinking? What was WRONG with me... What was I going through? I must have been LONELY AS HELL to hook up with you!"
Let folks go.
Some people come into your life for a lifetime and some come just come for a season. You just need to know which is which... and you're going to always mess things up... you'll mix seasonal people up with lifetime expectations. Thats why you've got people who married people when they were only supposed to be with them for a season... and now they wonder why they are having so much hell in their life. Cuz that was a person who was supposed to be in their life to teach them just one thing. They didn't know it and they fell in love with that person... and now they wonder why they don't have peace anywhere they go.
You see, I put everybody who comes into my life into a category of a tree. Some people are like leaves on a tree, the wind blows them over here... they're unstable... they blow the other way... they're unstable again... then the seasons change weather and they die and they're gone. Its alright though. Some people, no, MOST people in the world are like that. They're there to take from the tree and thats the only reason they're around... and to give shade every now and then. That's all they can do. But don't get mad at people like that... that's who they are. They'll never be nothing else. That's why they were put on the surface to be what they are... just a leaf.
Then some people are like a branch on the tree. But you got to be careful with those branches too, because boy will they will fool you. They'll make you think they're a good friend and real strong, but the minute you step out there on them, they'll break and leave you HIGH AND DRY.
But you see, if you find 2 or 3 people in your life, that are like the roots at the bottom of that tree, consider yourself very very blessed. Because those are the kind of people who are going NOWHERE... they aren't worried about being seen... and nobody needs to know that they know you... and nobody needs to know what they are doing for you. But if those roots weren't there, then that tree couldn't LIVE, you understand? And then you got the whole thing... a tree that can hold a hundred million branches but only a few roots down at the bottom to make sure its getting everything it needs. I'm telling you, when you got some roots, HOLD ONTO THEM. But the rest of it? Let it go... just let it go... LET THOSE FOLKS GO.
Nobody told you it was going to be easy, but it will get easy when you learn how to love YOURSELF. When you get to a point in your life when you look at people and go, "Ok wait a minute, you or me?". You will make a decision. And I've never in my life just thrown somebody away - like as in, "Just look-a-here, don't bother me no more... don't talk to me no more"... I've never done it. What I DO is say "Look, this thing your doing right here? That's going to cause a problem. You need to fix yourself. If we are going to be friends and going to be cool, then you need to fix things. And if you don't, then we are always going to have an issue". If you see somebody fix it or even TRYING to fix it... that's somebody who cares. Keep those people around. That's a leaf that's trying to grow up and be something else. BUT if you tell somebody "What you're doing is HURTING me and I need you to STOP" and they just keep doing it? They DON'T care. MOVE ON. Let them go. No matter how much it hurts, just let them go. And it will get easier... I promise you... every day it will get easier and easier and easier. You just got to make it through, you understand? And see, you got to learn to be by YOURSELF. People need to learn to be alone. I don't understand all these people saying, "I need somebody... Lord where's my man, Lord where's my woman?" That is crazy as hell. If you don't know how to be by yourself, then how are you going to be with somebody else? Stop worrying about it. Shut up and wait. Go work on YOU. Hell, that's what that time is for, to get yourself together. I'd rather be in a corner by myself with a puppy and a goldfish and be happy, then be sitting around with somebody in my house unwanted, and wondering what the hell they are there for. You would be surprised with some of the things people put up with just to have somebody to say they love them. That's crazy. I don't understand them. I can't live in dysfunction, I am sorry. I've come through too much... been through too much hell and high water to come this far, and then let you come up in my adult life when I am SAPPOSED to be in peace now but you give me all kinds of hell. There are two places on this earth where you are going to have peace... the grave and your house. Now, if you can't walk up into your house and have peace, then something is wrong. Something is wrong, I'm sorry. People go off rebuking Satan, well you need go off rebuking Satan and then beating the hell out of everything else that won't let you have peace...You hear? Thats just ridiculous. Let things like that go."
~Tyler Perry