Jun 05, 2023 20:34
I believe in unconditional love but not in a romantic way. I believe that the only unconditional love is a love between a parent and a child.
I don't believe that a romantic love should or can be unconditional. Unconditional love requires complete tolerance and acceptance of another person's actions. Which is unfair if another person's actions are inadequate. It causes a disbalance. It leaves one partner in a position of power and they expect unconditional love from their partner despite selfish acts and unthoughtful behavior while their partner is forced to tolerate it and be forever understanding of the circumstances as to why are they being treated that way. Sooner or later the understanding partner will get fed up with being understanding all the time and would want to be understood as well.
I've seen someone throwing furniture against the walls infront of the kids and was expecting to be loved unconditionally despite mistreating others.
I've heard of someone spoiled by their parents who expected their partner to be their personal servant.
So no, thank you. I don't want a partner, who is looking for unconditional love. Just like I don't expect my partner to love me if I treat them wrong only because in my head I am a lovely person who deserves unconditional love. I believe that love has to be deserved through behavior. Behavior is what translates who you are on the inside to others, not the thoughts or the words but your actions. How do you tread others: loved ones or total strangers? What will you do infront of everyone? What will you do when no one is watching? Are you a decent human being?
"Deep down you may still be that same great kid you used to be. But it's not who you are underneath, it's what you do that defines you." - Batman Begins
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