A tad frusterated
I've been at this place in my life before, and I don't like it. I don't know what exactly sparked it in me tonight, but it's here...and so I'm going to lay it out there and hope it doesn't cross my lj line.
I get really frusterated when people make assumptions and if they say they "feel" a certain way, but do nothing to follow through. For example, I get really frusterated when people assume I'm too busy for them. Yes, I'm busy...but who isn't?? It makes me sad, more than anything else. I don't know what I'd do without people like Chris, Gia, and Karen right now. Somehow we all manage to carve time out our crazy lives for each other. And yes, we normally hang out here - it's just a good hangout place. There are frequent surprises like brownies, muffins, and emotionally needy dogs that just make it a fun place. We're here, in some combination, almost every night. If someone out there is lonely or just wants to hang out, it's really not that hard to join us.
Then the second part of my frustration - I guess I really believe that faith without works applies to just about everything in life. Aka, the phrase "I miss you" should be followed with an action resolution like "can we get together to (insert specific activity) at (insert time) or something like that?" Just "I miss you" expresses a sentiment, but to me it's just half the equation. Same thing with something like "Sorry you are sick. Hope you feel better." The next half, if there's actually any meat to the first, should be something like "can I bring you some soup or medicine or anything?" Same thing wtih something like "I'm really worried about this test." That's all well and dandy, but the next part should be "So I can't hang out, I need to study."
If your dream is to be a rock star, then don't just dress like one and watch music videos all day. Practice your butt off, start a band, and start playing where ever you can. If you want to be a writer...what's stopping you? Write a book and start looking for a publisher. If you want to be a molecular biologist, then start doing some research and get some of your work published. Is it easy? Hell no. But without a lot of work, dreams stay dreams and never become reality. Would it be your dream if it wasn't worth a lot of hard work? If you want to change the world, freaking get started! Be the person you want to be tomorrow today. Even if that takes a lot of work - if you're not happy with the person you are or what your life is like, then do something to change it!!!
I have a close friend who tonight did something hard and shared his feelings without knowing how it would go. That takes guts, and shows a commitment to actually following through on what he feels. It's hard to do, and I really respect him for it. Yes, it's a risk...but even if things don't go well, at least there is some real honesty and ::gasp:: communication at work.
As with most of my rants, I know that I often do the same things that frusterate me when other people do them. And so half of my furstration is with myself. I'm just tired of people complaining and saying "I wish" and doing nothing to change the situation. Take some ownership of your life and be the person you want to be and do the things you dream about doing.
I get really frusterated when people make assumptions and if they say they "feel" a certain way, but do nothing to follow through. For example, I get really frusterated when people assume I'm too busy for them. Yes, I'm busy...but who isn't?? It makes me sad, more than anything else. I don't know what I'd do without people like Chris, Gia, and Karen right now. Somehow we all manage to carve time out our crazy lives for each other. And yes, we normally hang out here - it's just a good hangout place. There are frequent surprises like brownies, muffins, and emotionally needy dogs that just make it a fun place. We're here, in some combination, almost every night. If someone out there is lonely or just wants to hang out, it's really not that hard to join us.
Then the second part of my frustration - I guess I really believe that faith without works applies to just about everything in life. Aka, the phrase "I miss you" should be followed with an action resolution like "can we get together to (insert specific activity) at (insert time) or something like that?" Just "I miss you" expresses a sentiment, but to me it's just half the equation. Same thing with something like "Sorry you are sick. Hope you feel better." The next half, if there's actually any meat to the first, should be something like "can I bring you some soup or medicine or anything?" Same thing wtih something like "I'm really worried about this test." That's all well and dandy, but the next part should be "So I can't hang out, I need to study."
If your dream is to be a rock star, then don't just dress like one and watch music videos all day. Practice your butt off, start a band, and start playing where ever you can. If you want to be a writer...what's stopping you? Write a book and start looking for a publisher. If you want to be a molecular biologist, then start doing some research and get some of your work published. Is it easy? Hell no. But without a lot of work, dreams stay dreams and never become reality. Would it be your dream if it wasn't worth a lot of hard work? If you want to change the world, freaking get started! Be the person you want to be tomorrow today. Even if that takes a lot of work - if you're not happy with the person you are or what your life is like, then do something to change it!!!
I have a close friend who tonight did something hard and shared his feelings without knowing how it would go. That takes guts, and shows a commitment to actually following through on what he feels. It's hard to do, and I really respect him for it. Yes, it's a risk...but even if things don't go well, at least there is some real honesty and ::gasp:: communication at work.
As with most of my rants, I know that I often do the same things that frusterate me when other people do them. And so half of my furstration is with myself. I'm just tired of people complaining and saying "I wish" and doing nothing to change the situation. Take some ownership of your life and be the person you want to be and do the things you dream about doing.