I've always been a procrastinator. I leave things to the last minute. I don't get a lot of things done in a timely fashion. And mostly I'm okay with that
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I think that you and I are in very similar positions in life. A lot in their mid-to-late 20s are. We make plans when we're younger that we may or may not follow through with, almost mindlessly, because it's easier to follow the plan already mapped out for us than take a step back and consider our circumstances. I certainly didn't think that I'd be back at uni again at 27, seemingly starting all over, whilst it feels like everyone else in my age group has it all planned out. The truth is, I think social networking sites like Facebook exaggerate this effect. We see the best of everyones lives, thinking, "gee, don't they look happy and content and successful", etc., but the truth is we see what they want us to see. We don't see the doubt and uncertainty and bad times that we all go through. We see this simple, idealised version of themselves and compare ourselves unfairly. Why are we sabotaging ourselves like this?
I know the fear of that uncertainty very well. By May, June of last year, I was almost crippled by it. I had found my Dream Man, planned the wedding, and once that was over, the focus was back on.. well.. what next? I had tried a couple of things that I thought I wanted but, in fact, didn't, and it all felt too hard. I realise now, to a degree, that I'm taking the wrong viewpoint. What we both have now is an opportunity. An opportunity to do whatever the hell we want, whether we know what we want or not. Experiment. Try new things that might lead to our eventual paths. You could go on exchange internationally, move around the country, pick everything up and go wherever you want to be. We are young now, you're right, and relatively free of responsibility. We don't have mortgages or children and whilst you may have imagined yourself close to one of those things, the fact that you're not now allows you to move around without consideration to something holding you back. If you don't "succeed", then, what? You've learnt that wasn't right for you. Who's keeping score? Tick it off the list. Next!
Is time in Canada something that you think you might like to do, or were you thinking something via distance study?
You're right, of course :) I do need to focus on what I can do now, and just get on with it! I've always believed that trying was the important part, and the bit that leads to adventures and good times even if you don't succeed; sometimes it's just hard to remember that when everybody else seems to have their little idyllic bubbles of calm satisfaction.
Canada has never been at the top of my list of places to visit, but it would provide opportunity to do a bunch of stuff I'd actively like to do: see more of the world, opportunity to learn a second language, can study there because it's English speaking, go skiing, go to one of the big scifi conventions, maybe see the northern lights. And then there's the same stuff that would be good wherever I go that isn't Perth- I could meet new people and generally get a fresh start, or at least a break from being trapped here. So the more I think about it, the more it sounds like a good idea.
If not Canada, then I'll probably go to England, or if I stay in Australia, maybe Melbourne or Sydney. It all depends on what I can afford and what I decide to do next, study-wise.
Absolutely! And, as always, trying does not mean committing yourself to it forever and ever with no way to come back home. You could pick a place, give it a shot with an open mind and heart, and play it by ear because life is what we make of it. You might just find that it gives you the perspective and experience you were looking for!
If you did decide to stay in Australia, you know you'd have at least one friend already in Melbourne. It's a pretty wonderful city, if I do say so myself ;)
I know the fear of that uncertainty very well. By May, June of last year, I was almost crippled by it. I had found my Dream Man, planned the wedding, and once that was over, the focus was back on.. well.. what next? I had tried a couple of things that I thought I wanted but, in fact, didn't, and it all felt too hard. I realise now, to a degree, that I'm taking the wrong viewpoint. What we both have now is an opportunity. An opportunity to do whatever the hell we want, whether we know what we want or not. Experiment. Try new things that might lead to our eventual paths. You could go on exchange internationally, move around the country, pick everything up and go wherever you want to be. We are young now, you're right, and relatively free of responsibility. We don't have mortgages or children and whilst you may have imagined yourself close to one of those things, the fact that you're not now allows you to move around without consideration to something holding you back. If you don't "succeed", then, what? You've learnt that wasn't right for you. Who's keeping score? Tick it off the list. Next!
Is time in Canada something that you think you might like to do, or were you thinking something via distance study?
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Canada has never been at the top of my list of places to visit, but it would provide opportunity to do a bunch of stuff I'd actively like to do: see more of the world, opportunity to learn a second language, can study there because it's English speaking, go skiing, go to one of the big scifi conventions, maybe see the northern lights. And then there's the same stuff that would be good wherever I go that isn't Perth- I could meet new people and generally get a fresh start, or at least a break from being trapped here. So the more I think about it, the more it sounds like a good idea.
If not Canada, then I'll probably go to England, or if I stay in Australia, maybe Melbourne or Sydney. It all depends on what I can afford and what I decide to do next, study-wise.
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If you did decide to stay in Australia, you know you'd have at least one friend already in Melbourne. It's a pretty wonderful city, if I do say so myself ;)
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