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If anyone would like to contribute money, my mom won't be getting a social security check for Juan anymore and they will be lowering her food stamps and stuff, so things will be a bit tighter for her financially now. Checks can be made out to Otha Reyes
PO Box 310
Sparks, NV
89432
I know it seems impersonal to just send money, but she's running out of room in the fridge for food, cause everyone keeps sending cassaroles and stuff, and I hate for her to be worrying about finances when she already has all this to worry about. I guess people at my job are taking up a collection, which is awesome, because Ken and I are paying for all the deathy stuff. His parents gave us the money for the service (Can you believe preists fucking charge for that?! What about their vow of poverty?) But Ken and I are covering the $600 for the cremation. I'm REALLY hoping that my brother's Medicaid covers the hospital costs. I can't imagine what it would be like for my mom to open up a several-thousand dollar bill for the cost of letting her fourteen year old son die. I know they did all they could, but she's still having a really hard time with that, and keeps asking what else they could have done, and why they stopped CPR after only twenty minutes . I've told her about fifty times now that 20 minutes is an obscenely long time to do CPR, but it's her kid, so she feels like they just should have done it until it worked.
Since Juan had an IQ of about 70, he still acted more like an 8-year-old than a teenager, and my mom really babied him. She had to make sure he took showers and brushed his teeth, and she had to lay out his clothes for him and just basically take care of him as if he were much younger, so I think that makes it harder, too.
I'm trying not to get ahead of myself here, but my mom is bipolar and prone to pretty severe depression, and she always said that she was going to kill herself, but didn't because there was no one to take care of Juan, but now that he's gone, and she feels so terrible and guilty, I'm really worried that she'll do something dumb. I hate that. It's frustrating and I'm going to feel more than a little personally slighted if she does kill herself. Just because you kids are self-sufficient doesn't mean that they don't need a mom. The other two boys are only 10 and 12. How would it feel for them to know that their mom didn't think they were worth staying around for? That she didn't want to stick it out so she could see them graduate high school or get married? She's going to see a shrink tomorrow. Hopefully that will help. I'm out of things to say to her. She just rolls her eyes and says "yeah, whatever" to me. So stubborn.
PO Box 310
Sparks, NV
89432
I know it seems impersonal to just send money, but she's running out of room in the fridge for food, cause everyone keeps sending cassaroles and stuff, and I hate for her to be worrying about finances when she already has all this to worry about. I guess people at my job are taking up a collection, which is awesome, because Ken and I are paying for all the deathy stuff. His parents gave us the money for the service (Can you believe preists fucking charge for that?! What about their vow of poverty?) But Ken and I are covering the $600 for the cremation. I'm REALLY hoping that my brother's Medicaid covers the hospital costs. I can't imagine what it would be like for my mom to open up a several-thousand dollar bill for the cost of letting her fourteen year old son die. I know they did all they could, but she's still having a really hard time with that, and keeps asking what else they could have done, and why they stopped CPR after only twenty minutes . I've told her about fifty times now that 20 minutes is an obscenely long time to do CPR, but it's her kid, so she feels like they just should have done it until it worked.
Since Juan had an IQ of about 70, he still acted more like an 8-year-old than a teenager, and my mom really babied him. She had to make sure he took showers and brushed his teeth, and she had to lay out his clothes for him and just basically take care of him as if he were much younger, so I think that makes it harder, too.
I'm trying not to get ahead of myself here, but my mom is bipolar and prone to pretty severe depression, and she always said that she was going to kill herself, but didn't because there was no one to take care of Juan, but now that he's gone, and she feels so terrible and guilty, I'm really worried that she'll do something dumb. I hate that. It's frustrating and I'm going to feel more than a little personally slighted if she does kill herself. Just because you kids are self-sufficient doesn't mean that they don't need a mom. The other two boys are only 10 and 12. How would it feel for them to know that their mom didn't think they were worth staying around for? That she didn't want to stick it out so she could see them graduate high school or get married? She's going to see a shrink tomorrow. Hopefully that will help. I'm out of things to say to her. She just rolls her eyes and says "yeah, whatever" to me. So stubborn.