Brighter than sunshine
So Ryan and I are doing something different with our relationship that drops the titles "boyfriend and girlfriend" and absolves most of the responsibilities with it. We still love each other and want to be together, but the pressure that has been mounting for five years now has gotten to be too much and we need to cut it out while we still are in
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anywho, not that you need to take my advice here, as it is unsolicited, but keep in mind i'm older than you and like to spout out.
if you are admitting that you were most of the relationship, and that he ended the "official" title right before a m'fing trip to hawaii, and you two had been together for 5 yrs, and you're only 21ish, you need to move on. i'm not there, i don't know him, but just from this post alone, i get the distinct impression that you are aware he's not really what you want in a boyfriend. in your last paragraph, you say that you need to change your current habits, but then see if he can me man enough to show you love and be aware of your needs? sounds like he's just sitting back and getting what he wants while you are doing all the work. i don't think he's going to change the way you want him too. you are so young cori, so young. don't get stuck in thinking this is your only chance at love.
please keep in mind this was in a nice, gentle tone, not a scolding one. damn the internet for not having tone!
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I see all of that too, but I am forced to be biased and see of the wonderful things he has done too, including loving me very much.
There is a lot that needs to be worked on, and currently it's really really rough to just suddenly find myself lost in this unknown future. I really like planning, and not know what's going to happen freaks me out more (I think) than the actual not being together part.
It was a pretty d-bag move doing all this right before he leaves for Hawaii, but being as he lives 160 miles away we had to do it then : /
I'm hoping everything works out alright in the end, but mostly I just want to be happy and not stressed out. I'm hoping he will change the way HE wants to, and not just the way I wish he would.
Thanks again Marie, I hope we'll get to see each other when you come back home! I'm sorry your problems are worse off than mine and I don't have much to say to you for advice :(
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