Efficiency and Choice
Man, I admit I've been fairly fascinated with the Ashley Madison hacking.
It almost seems like the plot of a novel or something, the data being hacked and then sent out like that.
It sure as heck derailed the initial public offering Ashley Madison was planning to do. It's one of the most swift and thorough guttings of a company I have ever seen. I'm not even sure stuff like Lumber Liquidator's carcinogen scandal tops it for sheer destruction to the company.
Maybe it's like the way I'm fascinated watching heavy machinery at dumps and contruction sites, and get mesmerized watching factory machines on How It's Made. Sheer efficiency is eyecatching to me. I remember the first time I spotted one of the landfill compactors in action as kid, one with the massive spiked metal wheels, moving and crushing items. I wish dumps didn't exist, but the machines there are quite fascinating and powerful.
On the more social side, I'm kind of glad that people do have the knowledge now that their spouse is cheating on them. I'd want to know, and my sisters would want to know. My sisters' and my schools had very candid sex education classes. We take the threat of sexually transmitted diseases very seriously.
None of us want herpes or HIV or the like. People can also be carriers of diseases but show no signs (younger sis' friend got chlamydia from her boyfriend who had zero signs) but the diseases can still be passed on, cause internal damage in more subtle ways, or harm children if a woman is pregnant.
One of the stories the nurse who was presenting told in my college sex education class was about a very devout christian woman who decided to not have sex until marriage. When she and her husband tried to have a kid, it was discovered that she had an sexually transmitted disease, microwarts or something akin to that, if I remember correctly, in her uterus. Her husband was all up in arms angry at first, but it turned out he had had sex before marriage, gotten the disease, passed it to her when they got married, and neither of them knew about it until she couldn't have children anymore because of it. Neither of them showed clear signs or had gotten tested for anything.
I would never ever forgive myself if I found out a brother in law was cheating, but I said nothing, and then one of my sisters got a disease, especially something like herpes or HIV, as a result. Better to try to catch things quick, just in case it can be treated better earlier or hopefully prevented entirely.
In a situation like above, I would regret staying silent to my dying day.
Better they have all the data, and can make their own choices. I'm 99.9% sure they feel the same way; we wouldn't speak on something like that lightly. We all make our own choices, but we love and trust each other a lot. We speak if we're worried, and add opinions or data to the hoppers, and then let the person make their choice, whatever it may be. But we don't stay totally silent if something is an important matter.
If we ever critically misjudge a partner and they gamble with their and our health, it woud suck, but it's always better to know sooner rather than later, in my opinion. It's too important not to. Just my general stance on knowing vs. not knowing, anyway. Chris is pretty vehemently opposed to cheating because of his chaotic family history and is overall a pretty darn sweet and straighforward guy, but seriously... if it ever did happen and I missed it, I'd want someone to tell me, for my physical wellbeing and safety.
It almost seems like the plot of a novel or something, the data being hacked and then sent out like that.
It sure as heck derailed the initial public offering Ashley Madison was planning to do. It's one of the most swift and thorough guttings of a company I have ever seen. I'm not even sure stuff like Lumber Liquidator's carcinogen scandal tops it for sheer destruction to the company.
Maybe it's like the way I'm fascinated watching heavy machinery at dumps and contruction sites, and get mesmerized watching factory machines on How It's Made. Sheer efficiency is eyecatching to me. I remember the first time I spotted one of the landfill compactors in action as kid, one with the massive spiked metal wheels, moving and crushing items. I wish dumps didn't exist, but the machines there are quite fascinating and powerful.
On the more social side, I'm kind of glad that people do have the knowledge now that their spouse is cheating on them. I'd want to know, and my sisters would want to know. My sisters' and my schools had very candid sex education classes. We take the threat of sexually transmitted diseases very seriously.
None of us want herpes or HIV or the like. People can also be carriers of diseases but show no signs (younger sis' friend got chlamydia from her boyfriend who had zero signs) but the diseases can still be passed on, cause internal damage in more subtle ways, or harm children if a woman is pregnant.
One of the stories the nurse who was presenting told in my college sex education class was about a very devout christian woman who decided to not have sex until marriage. When she and her husband tried to have a kid, it was discovered that she had an sexually transmitted disease, microwarts or something akin to that, if I remember correctly, in her uterus. Her husband was all up in arms angry at first, but it turned out he had had sex before marriage, gotten the disease, passed it to her when they got married, and neither of them knew about it until she couldn't have children anymore because of it. Neither of them showed clear signs or had gotten tested for anything.
I would never ever forgive myself if I found out a brother in law was cheating, but I said nothing, and then one of my sisters got a disease, especially something like herpes or HIV, as a result. Better to try to catch things quick, just in case it can be treated better earlier or hopefully prevented entirely.
In a situation like above, I would regret staying silent to my dying day.
Better they have all the data, and can make their own choices. I'm 99.9% sure they feel the same way; we wouldn't speak on something like that lightly. We all make our own choices, but we love and trust each other a lot. We speak if we're worried, and add opinions or data to the hoppers, and then let the person make their choice, whatever it may be. But we don't stay totally silent if something is an important matter.
If we ever critically misjudge a partner and they gamble with their and our health, it woud suck, but it's always better to know sooner rather than later, in my opinion. It's too important not to. Just my general stance on knowing vs. not knowing, anyway. Chris is pretty vehemently opposed to cheating because of his chaotic family history and is overall a pretty darn sweet and straighforward guy, but seriously... if it ever did happen and I missed it, I'd want someone to tell me, for my physical wellbeing and safety.