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[confessor_denee]

Noone leaves me notes anymore... I feel like shit. I want to go home now... I don't care about loans. I just want to go home and have my mom hold me and say everything'll be okay... and I want to work so that I can buy a new computer, since mine died... and I want to go to Josh's house and laugh at him when he gets drunk

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Re: more bluntness from me.

[darksbane]

first off, when did this become about you, since 2/3rd of that was about you?

Another example was prompted since you decided to start the "Woe is me" tour. If you want to go that route, it makes your examples irrelevant as well.

you know what prompted this, though? because i hear from brandi, through words and actions that she wants to be able to stand up for herself. that she wants to know where she stands so that she can deal with her life. so when i hear those things, i form the opinion that brandi wants to be able to find the strength in her life (but it doesn't always have to be within her) to stand firm. but whining and making no attempts at coping or changing aren't getting her anywhere. *that's* what provoked this. i mean, pity from us is not helping her learn to find her wings.

She will learn in time. Criticism nor doing everything for her will not help her grow. She has to do it on her own, and in time, she may or may not find moving home was a mistake. What is right for you is not right for her. Who is to say moving back to her foundations will not help her stand firm? You don't know, and you have no more right to make that decision for her than I do. *shrugs* She vents to me, and I do what a friend should do. I listen, I don't engage in a bitch fest about how easy she has it or how hard my life is.

first off, everyone has to start somewhere. learning to deal with a difficult roommate is a good place to start, imho; doesn't matter if that roommate is your sister or some random shit, either. always running back to the arms of mom won't teach you how to do anything. also, when someone expresses the desire to be able to fight it at least a little bit, then offers nothing, that's a contradiction. and not something to be praised.

Eventually, everybody hits a place where they either choose to or have no choice but to start standing up.

i didn't toss in my past on purpose. and i won't add it in here. suffice to say, i had to start being my own parent when i was 7 or 8.

I thought you said this wasn't about either of us.

and i don't respect how she feels? you know what's more depressing than being depressed? being able to predict- down to the week- when you will get depressed. and knowing that the only thing you can do is watch it come and shore up your mind. i *understand* depression. i also know there is a lot that a person can do to take the rough cornors off...i have no right to complain about my depression/mania if i'm not taking my meds and trying to do small stabalizing patterns and talking to my mom and/or doctor. those are the ways i help "treat" my mental issues. if brandi's not trying to take her edges off, using the methods she's been told to use, then- in my mind- she has no right to complain about how bad things are.

Re: more bluntness from me.

[darksbane]

Do you know how many shrinks I've seen? You know what their solutions are? They all want me to take medication... Coincidentally the medications they give me make me worse. They make my rage more than I can control. So, if I were to do what they told me, I would probably be a murderer by now. The whole blacking out in a fit of rage thing, and not remembering what happened kinda isn't good for my functional place in society. Doctor's don't always know what's right for you. Your friends don't always know what's right for you, either. For that matter, I'd think you'd be a little more compassionate if you were really her friend. I did, however, try to figure out exactly who you were and why you were a self-righteous bitch. I've met you before, and I didn't like you then either. I've been around you more than once, actually. You are one of those people who always has to be better than everybody else. You have to have done and experienced more than anybody else. No matter what someone has or does, you have to have or do something better. I despise people like you. You can't simply respect other people for what they are, instead your superiority complex inhibits your abilities to actually connect to people on a personal basis. You lack the ability to understand much about anyone. Maybe you weren't given enough affection as a child.

the bottom line is that brandi would have heard NONE of that from me IF i'd never had a conversation with her in which she expressed the desire to learn to be this way and do these things. esp. since these past posts really make it seem like she hasn't tried, but she's just resigned herself to fate.

So, if I vent to someone it grants them the right to tell me how to live my life? You completely lack tact. Brandi has shared some of her feelings like that with me, but I haven't ever told her in a very wordy rant "Get over it." Society and life is quite hard enough without friends like you making it harder.

Plz k thx....

Re: more bluntness from me.

[darksbane]

Not only that, I don't think you have a right to tell anyone how to live considering you blew Jake Penton a week after he and Kira started dating. Have a nice day! ;-)