Passive Aggressive Nonsense
My parents and my big sister are at outright, passive aggressive war.
It started about a month ago when she finally got a job (yay! in my point of view) and her driver's license. My parents, as much as I love them, do not want my sister or myself to widen out in our horizons. They like things to remain the same and given that we do 80% of the housework and babysitting and child rearing around here, I can see why they're threatened by Diane's new sense of independence.
Now, she wants to move out. She's ready. All she needs is a place that doesn't smell like rancid cat pee and she's out.
Mom and Dad aren't too happy about that. They see it as an act of defiance and rebellion. I, however, see it as the much needed change in the status quo. It was established in 1999 when my first little sibling was born and it's continued on for the last 11 years. Now, Dad has a valid excuse for throwing the majority of his load on us. He works at a horrible place with horrible hours but with excellent insurance which is why he can't leave. That, and he can't find another job that would support all 9 of us....well, soon to be 8 of us.
Mom is disabled but not as disabled as she acts. In her disability, she has left the day to day house things (sans the grocery shopping) to us. We have been overly protected adults for years even though we're just now in our late teens, stunting us both socially, emotionally, and even physically. I'm 17 years old and I don't how to ride a bike or swim....sad, huh?
Something has to give and it's not going to be them so she has put up the white flag and is retreating.
They, however, want to keep the war going and now, they're trying to drag me into it.
I am Switzerland. I am neutral. I'm not going to get directly involved with this little spat and they all know it. Yet, if I HAVE to choose a side, it's going to be my sister's. Not only out of loyalty (I was the baby the longest with her- 6 years) but in all the wrong in the situation, she has the least and she has the most logical approach to this predicament.
Over all, the title of this post is what I think of it all. I don't get it. If you don't like her goals and if you don't agree with the way she wants to live her life, then LET HER LEAVE. I'm sick of feeling like I'm living in a minefield of bull. I'm sick of hearing them talk harshly about her behind her back (and they don't expect me tell her? As if!) and I'm sick of seeing my sister sad.
Okay, yeah, change sucks and kicks rocks but right now, it's necessary. I only hope that they can come to the realization before what weak bonds between them sever and die forever.
It started about a month ago when she finally got a job (yay! in my point of view) and her driver's license. My parents, as much as I love them, do not want my sister or myself to widen out in our horizons. They like things to remain the same and given that we do 80% of the housework and babysitting and child rearing around here, I can see why they're threatened by Diane's new sense of independence.
Now, she wants to move out. She's ready. All she needs is a place that doesn't smell like rancid cat pee and she's out.
Mom and Dad aren't too happy about that. They see it as an act of defiance and rebellion. I, however, see it as the much needed change in the status quo. It was established in 1999 when my first little sibling was born and it's continued on for the last 11 years. Now, Dad has a valid excuse for throwing the majority of his load on us. He works at a horrible place with horrible hours but with excellent insurance which is why he can't leave. That, and he can't find another job that would support all 9 of us....well, soon to be 8 of us.
Mom is disabled but not as disabled as she acts. In her disability, she has left the day to day house things (sans the grocery shopping) to us. We have been overly protected adults for years even though we're just now in our late teens, stunting us both socially, emotionally, and even physically. I'm 17 years old and I don't how to ride a bike or swim....sad, huh?
Something has to give and it's not going to be them so she has put up the white flag and is retreating.
They, however, want to keep the war going and now, they're trying to drag me into it.
I am Switzerland. I am neutral. I'm not going to get directly involved with this little spat and they all know it. Yet, if I HAVE to choose a side, it's going to be my sister's. Not only out of loyalty (I was the baby the longest with her- 6 years) but in all the wrong in the situation, she has the least and she has the most logical approach to this predicament.
Over all, the title of this post is what I think of it all. I don't get it. If you don't like her goals and if you don't agree with the way she wants to live her life, then LET HER LEAVE. I'm sick of feeling like I'm living in a minefield of bull. I'm sick of hearing them talk harshly about her behind her back (and they don't expect me tell her? As if!) and I'm sick of seeing my sister sad.
Okay, yeah, change sucks and kicks rocks but right now, it's necessary. I only hope that they can come to the realization before what weak bonds between them sever and die forever.