Being Bi Blows Because... (Reason #1)

[cleverboot]

...because straight and gay people alike are prejudiced against you.Apparently, it's against human nature or something to be capable of being attracted to both and/or either gender. Straight people (well, the asshole-y ones) hate you because they see you as a lesbian--which, you know, is fine, because whatever, I expected that when I started coming

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[softfruit]

As someone who runs a bi social/support group, I'd add to that first one that we get plenty of people who have come to id'ing as bi *from* gay as well as from straight. So this idea of a stopping-off point on the way to somewhere else? They're all stopping-off points, but like a new character in a soap opera none of us know how long we'll be staying.

[cleverboot]

That is also very true. I do understand that they're all stopping points. I totally get that. I myself thought for a quite a while that I was probably a lesbian, until it finally got through my thick head that yes, in spite of what people keep telling me, it IS possible to be attracted to women and men. And yes, I've known guys who say they're bi but who are really gay and thus fit the stereotype perfectly, but I've known people who don't, too. The train at the bisexual-stopping-off point, she travels both ways, methinks. (Loved the soap opera analogy there, btw ;P)

[softfruit]

To be clear, I was more adding to your rantage than trying to teach granny the egg-sucking trick :)

[cleverboot]

Also, I forgot to ask before, but I'm just kinda curious. How did you happen to come across my entry? I ask mostly out of fear that I've forgotten if I know you or not, but also, as I said, plain curiousity.

[loverofswamps]

Yes. That kind of attitude makes me so mad too. It's just ridiculous that in 2009 some people still can't seem to accept that, hello, bisexuality exists.

[cleverboot]

I know! I mean, you get it from the absolute weirdest places, too. My 70-something year-old grandmother believes in bisexuals (she doesn't approve of them, but she acknowledges that they/we are out there ^__^), but freakin' my best friend from high school, who is a lesbian herself, told me that, "There's no such thing as a bisexual". I was just, like, "o.O ...Hubwhaa? ...Uh... you're wrong."

[pure_morning_8]

Arghh. Yes to everything you wrote! I'm a bisexual woman myself and am constantly being told that I can only be 'one or the other'. I've tried to explain that gender just isn't an issue for me, but they treat my relationships with other women as a joke.

Srry for random comment. Just saw this and had to respond!

[cleverboot]

Hey, replying is never a problem. I'm kinda flattered, actually. I wasn't expecting anyone to notice my pissy-fit rant, much less reply to it. :P

But yeah. I mean, I'm ever-so-slightly relationship-phobic, so I don't have many of them, but yeah, whenever it comes up, it's like people just assume that other girls are a way to pass the time or amuse myself or something until I decide to find a man to marry. I'm half-convinced to purposefully go and find myself a nice butch-y type lady and marry her, just to get back at the nay-sayers. Well, them and the aforementioned asshole-y straight people--screw you, Rick Santorum, mwhahahaha! Ahem. Sorry. I hate Rick Santorum and his ilk more than I hate onions. And I REALLY hate onions.

[pure_morning_8]

Haha, you sound like me. But I'm so relationship-phobic it's unreal. I've been with a couple women and a few men, but it's never been serious really. I love my independence too much to let anyone near >.<

I have become a bit heterophobic recently. Particularly with straight men, because I'm also a massive feminist and I get sick of them treating that as a joke. I don't like to stereotype, because I know there are a lot of really open minded heterosexuals, but with a lot of them I'm often wondering what they're really saying about me behind my back.

Heh. I can feel a rant coming on, I might need to write this down in my journal at some point!

[cleverboot]

;P Go right ahead! Rants are fun. The fact that I sorta-kinda helped to inspire a rant makes me happy, hehehe.