To Choose...
If someone had told me two years ago that I would have to make a choice between two (or more) guys sometime, I would have probably rolled my eyes in annoyance. Now it happens. How did I turn from the geeky, shy Claus who didn’t have the nerve to even smile at a guy, to the guy who now more and more people find attractive?
I had to make that choice a month ago, and after some deliberation and a lot of getting to know both guys, I decided I would go for neither. We decided to stay just friends, although I am unsure whether I’ll see either of them again. Now I am a bit stuck with the same decision and don’t know what to do. Both guys seem nice and I would love to get to know both of them, but I know that if I chose one, the other one will likely fall out of my life, and that bothers me.
I had a date with Patrick the other day. It was one of those fun, unplanned dates where you don’t know what to do and end up doing a bit of everything (walking around, window shopping, dinner and a movie). Patrick and I are very different in many ways, but we have a lot of things in common. It’s funny that even our birthdays are almost the same; he was born just one day before me… I don’t know how two Virgos can get along so well but apparently they can, hehe. The date was tons of fun and we plan on doing it again. Unfortunately Patrick lives in Abbotsford so it is quite a bit of travel for us to meet.
This distance thing is starting to become a major issue with the guys I date lately. I want to be with someone but I know that it’s hard to meet often with a person who lives far away. It wouldn’t be as bad now in the summer, but once school starts for both of us again we probably would end up seeing each other once a month, and I’m not exactly sure I want to go through that again; I did my time dating someone I couldn’t even see half the time. I guess we will just have to play it by ear and see what happens.
Before I met Patrick I met a boy named Suni at the club. He too lives a bit further away than I like but is much closer (Delta). We haven’t exactly gone out on a real date, but I would be interested to know him; it’s hard to decide whether we are compatible after just one night of drunken snogging. On the other hand I don’t want to be the kind of person who dates multiple people at once… but at the same time, how do I know who to choose and what do I base things on? I am a loyal partner once I am in a relationship, but, while I want a boyfriend, I don’t want to jump right into something and lose the opportunity to meet other people who I may click better with. (Just to make it clear, when I mention “dating” I mean dating, as in going out for dates, not sleeping with!).
So now I am at a crossroad. Do I go for the sweet guy who lives far away, or do I go out with the crazy guy that gave me a huge hickey on the neck, who I don’t know much yet, and risk losing both? I almost miss the days when nobody found me attractive and I struggled to meet boys.
I had to make that choice a month ago, and after some deliberation and a lot of getting to know both guys, I decided I would go for neither. We decided to stay just friends, although I am unsure whether I’ll see either of them again. Now I am a bit stuck with the same decision and don’t know what to do. Both guys seem nice and I would love to get to know both of them, but I know that if I chose one, the other one will likely fall out of my life, and that bothers me.
I had a date with Patrick the other day. It was one of those fun, unplanned dates where you don’t know what to do and end up doing a bit of everything (walking around, window shopping, dinner and a movie). Patrick and I are very different in many ways, but we have a lot of things in common. It’s funny that even our birthdays are almost the same; he was born just one day before me… I don’t know how two Virgos can get along so well but apparently they can, hehe. The date was tons of fun and we plan on doing it again. Unfortunately Patrick lives in Abbotsford so it is quite a bit of travel for us to meet.
This distance thing is starting to become a major issue with the guys I date lately. I want to be with someone but I know that it’s hard to meet often with a person who lives far away. It wouldn’t be as bad now in the summer, but once school starts for both of us again we probably would end up seeing each other once a month, and I’m not exactly sure I want to go through that again; I did my time dating someone I couldn’t even see half the time. I guess we will just have to play it by ear and see what happens.
Before I met Patrick I met a boy named Suni at the club. He too lives a bit further away than I like but is much closer (Delta). We haven’t exactly gone out on a real date, but I would be interested to know him; it’s hard to decide whether we are compatible after just one night of drunken snogging. On the other hand I don’t want to be the kind of person who dates multiple people at once… but at the same time, how do I know who to choose and what do I base things on? I am a loyal partner once I am in a relationship, but, while I want a boyfriend, I don’t want to jump right into something and lose the opportunity to meet other people who I may click better with. (Just to make it clear, when I mention “dating” I mean dating, as in going out for dates, not sleeping with!).
So now I am at a crossroad. Do I go for the sweet guy who lives far away, or do I go out with the crazy guy that gave me a huge hickey on the neck, who I don’t know much yet, and risk losing both? I almost miss the days when nobody found me attractive and I struggled to meet boys.