Virtual gifts and other dilemmas!

Dec 09, 2009 20:48

Stop giving each other virtual gifts >_< It's flooding my inbox! D ( Read more... )

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jtsbbsps_dk December 9 2009, 20:56:11 UTC
1) Du kan slå at få emails når andre får virtual gifts fra under indstillinger et sted :)

2) Ja, okay, damn dillemma /: *hugs you* Er det virkeligt så slemt at være au pair? Hvis 'ØV' faktoren udvejer 'YAY' faktoren, så tror jeg du skal hjem... *hugs more*

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clarex_ama December 9 2009, 21:10:48 UTC
1) Jeg bliver nødt til at undersøge det så :P

2) jeg sys ik det er super sjovt, nej. Men jeg kan ik finde ud af om jeg kan leve med en crappy hverdag, og så ha det sjovt med mine venner i weekenden - eller om jeg har bedre af at tage hjem. Der er selvfølgelig også den mulighed at finde en ny familie? Det hele er bare så mærkeligt... man føler sig så akavet, fordi det hedder sig at man er en del af familien, men det er man ikke... :/

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starrose17 December 9 2009, 22:01:51 UTC
you can turn that option off in your lj so you don't get notified when your friends receive virtual gifts.

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clarex_ama December 9 2009, 22:21:22 UTC
I've tried - but it doesn't work D:

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yuichan December 9 2009, 22:02:41 UTC
you must have had the settings so you see other people's gifts too- so you don't get that, go on the 'modify friend'or notifications (http://www.livejournal.com/manage/settings/?cat=notifications) page,and just deselect the option to get notifications when someone sends them a gift ( ... )

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clarex_ama December 9 2009, 22:33:09 UTC
The problem is that I did that already - it just doesn't work! I don't know if I haven't done it correctly or... otl ( ... )

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yuichan December 9 2009, 22:50:53 UTC
ehh xP maybe it's to do with lj's notifications messing up over the last few days;; i guess there's not a lot you can do except wait and see orz

mm trying to find a new family might be a good option..i think you should consider all of the things you're not enjoying right now.. for example, kids might be nicer in a different family, but you'll probably still have to clean and cook. however, the hours might be different.
if it's stuff that might be different with a different family, go for it ! or maybe it's the general au-pairing you don't like ; 3;

yeah,you're right, i guess there's only a few things that would be helped by talking to them..

i can't really give you much advice as it's all up to you xD;
hope you find the right decision though!
hehe i still want to meet you someday,though xDD arr and i've just moved back home away from london for christmas ; 3;

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clarex_ama December 9 2009, 23:29:19 UTC
Yeah, I'll just have to wait ><

Yes you are right. I think I would like the children to be younger and it would be nice if the mum wasn't single so that I'm the only grown up except for her. And less cooking would be loved.
Maybe it is the general au pairing that I don't like. That's another reason why I'm in a dilemma, because there's no point in changing if I'll just stay unhappy :/

So far you advices have been great - so thank you so much for that!! *hug*
And I still want to meet you too!!! ;3; I hope we can arrange something soon..

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gomimushi December 9 2009, 22:26:51 UTC
I'm getting my inbox flooded with them too, but they're notifications from so many different accounts that I can't turn them all off! I just need to delete them every once and a while. >_<'

Erhk. That's definitely a dilemma indeed.... I mean, Maybe it'd be good if you were able to find out if you could change families? Being completely selfish and truthful here, I'd be really sad if you left - I've only just met you. :( I don't want you to leave so if there's any chance of you staying, I'm hoping you'll take it.

I totally understand if you really hate the job, so I don't know what the solution would be, but for what it's worth, I'll really miss you if you go ;~;''

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clarex_ama December 9 2009, 22:41:24 UTC
I'm glad I'm not the only one! Yes, I tried turning the notifications off but it doesn't work D: I guess I'll just have to delete them ><

I would miss you too!!!!! That's why I don't want to leave ;_; I'm thinking about maybe going back to Denmark and find another family and then come back to England as soon as possible? I will definitely do what I can to find ways to stay...
I don't know what to do.. I guess changing family is my best option so far..

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gomimushi December 9 2009, 23:16:39 UTC
Emails from LJ have been pretty weird these last few days, so I'm not surprised, I guess. I've just been deleting them :'<

Ahh, if you can find another family it'd be great! As nyametan says though, you should consider what you'll be expected to do in a new family... and whether you'll be happy or not. Find out if you can see whether there are families that ask you to work different hours, or something..?

Good luck with your decision and see you soooon ~ ;A;''

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clarex_ama December 9 2009, 23:23:14 UTC
Yeah they have been weird - it's quite annoying..

Yes, there's no point in changing family if it won't change a thing. I think I would be happier working with younger children and not more than two if it can arranged. And to have a dad in the family would probably help too - so that I'm not the only "adult" except for the mum. and I would very much like not to cook every night ><

Thank you! <3 Yes, see you!

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silindro December 10 2009, 00:13:22 UTC
Jeg er rigtig ked af at høre, at det ikke kører så godt derovre alligevel. Jeg tror jo på den gode, gamle fordele og ulemper-liste, men det er desværre ikke altid at den virker...
Men ja, det hele kommer vel som sådan an på, om det er familien eller generelt det at være au-pair, der går dig på.

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clarex_ama December 10 2009, 14:20:07 UTC
Det er det jeg har haft det svært ved at finde ud af.. men jeg ved det jo ik med sikkerhed før jeg har prøvet at skifte familie. Jeg har snakket med mine forældre og de sys også det lyder til at være familien der er problemet, så at sige. Jeg vil jo gerne blive i England, men jeg er bare ik glad i den her familie... om det bliver bedre af at skifte, ved jeg ikke men man kan jo altid prøve. Så min plan er at tage tilbage til DK og finde en ny familie og så tage afsted igen.. Nu skal jeg bare ha sagt til moderen at jeg ik vil være deres au pair længere... det har jeg virkelig ik lyst til :(

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silindro December 10 2009, 20:23:58 UTC
Det synes jeg som sådan lyder som en meget god idé. Og når du så skal fortælle hende moderen, at du ikke vil være deres au pair længere, så kan du jo heldigvis udelade delen med at du bare ikke vil være deres au pair længere. Selvom jeg godt kan se at det stadig ikke er særlig sjovt...

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