Social dysfunction

[chrysologus400]

Does not moving away from your hometown (at least for a while) to go to college (or the military, etc.) stunt a person's social development? Is college so important to the culture of young adults that those who don't participate are left in a social vacuum that prevents them from maturing? Obviously this cannot be a universal rule, but I wonder if

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[smudgealot]

As someone who put off going to college for 2 years before going, and as someone with a degree in psychology, I think the way they're acting is evidence that they missed a chance to get away and might feel a little trapped in the place where they are. That being said, I think there is some element of growing apart. There are probably crude inside jokes we are not aware of because we're simply not there, not that we would find them particularly funny if we WERE there, as I've been around them on holidays and they're really hard to be around even in person. Andy is living at home now, after college, and he seems to understand them a little better, but does not participate in the meanness that they do.

We also have to remember that we're talking about Jared...who has never really been known for any high level of maturity, especially with the many things he's gone through growing up, not that this is an excuse for alienating people who care about him.

Anyway, I'm also at a loss and honestly had considered not inviting some people to the wedding, but that's not happening, and Rob, you better be there ;)

[chrysologus400]

It's true that Jared has always been somewhat immature. I had, apparently mistakenly, thought that he had grown up over the past few years. Now he seems to me to be more childish than ever, though.