#46
so yesterday he ate 烤鸭 and dripped sauce on his pants, and I teased him about it last night. this afternoon I noticed that he was wearing the same pair of pants and I took his bottle and attempted to pour some of it on his pants to wash it clean, and he evaded, I cornered him, and asked him if he believed that I would splash the whole bottle at him; he said no, I threw it, and in ducking to avoid it (his narration, in recounting this incident in story-form to me: “然后我想：哇操，她真的丢了”） he hit his head on a wall. ................ and then he had a bump on his forehead and we were both incredulous that something can happen from five minutes of fooling around... now he has a bump on his head and the English exam that he's been prepping for on sunday morning. .......................
and so we didn't go out for dinner with the rest and I glued his spectacles back together (they broke) and he rested in his bed (his entire left side was slightly numb) and we waited till his roommate returned, and then we walked out for dinner. and we ate 燃面 and I finally asked him to tell me the story of his ex-girlfriend of 6 years and he did, and we talked for two hours sitting at that plastic foldable table in the dark outside, eating pineapple and cold meat in vinegar and noodles, and we spoke in Chinese all of today and on the way there, and we had this conversation in English, and at first I pepper him with a million questions and pull out piece by piece of information and then it seemed like a dam broke and he's telling me stories. stories and also telling me through his stories why he broke up, what he wants to do with his life, his worldview, the way he treats people.. things i already kind of know through watching him and being with him but this, more stories, is more experiences of him not only now but in his past. the kind of person he fully is and the choices he has made. this is where we're at in our trust of each other: i asked when the last time his ex-girlfriend fully understood him was, he said: she always fully understands me (and, of course, he meant even through the breakup). so I was silent for a while and then I asked him.. so how can you be dating me after just breaking up with your ex-girlfriend? which is really just us asking why we're together.
and we talked about his parents and what we want in life and idealism vs practicality and my high school days and the whole education-speech incident, which i haven't talked about in years, and about the people i thought i was in love with during my college days, and our very similar personality changes through the years and the standards we each still have, even if we have such different ways of expressing it now.
he said that (he likes me because) i am curious. he also said that a person who is interesting is like the stars in the sky they shine out at you.
I told him, I never expected so much. he said, from our relationship? i said "yes but also more" but i didn't elaborate but maybe what i mean is what i didn't say in the last post: i went to this temple where people pray for marriage/love and at that time it was the beginning of the relationship and i didn't have much faith, and the only sentence i prayed was that he would be good enough. .. good enough so that he will treat me rightly, but also good enough so that my heart can shake itself loose of all those ideals it once held and for once embrace something real.
and so we didn't go out for dinner with the rest and I glued his spectacles back together (they broke) and he rested in his bed (his entire left side was slightly numb) and we waited till his roommate returned, and then we walked out for dinner. and we ate 燃面 and I finally asked him to tell me the story of his ex-girlfriend of 6 years and he did, and we talked for two hours sitting at that plastic foldable table in the dark outside, eating pineapple and cold meat in vinegar and noodles, and we spoke in Chinese all of today and on the way there, and we had this conversation in English, and at first I pepper him with a million questions and pull out piece by piece of information and then it seemed like a dam broke and he's telling me stories. stories and also telling me through his stories why he broke up, what he wants to do with his life, his worldview, the way he treats people.. things i already kind of know through watching him and being with him but this, more stories, is more experiences of him not only now but in his past. the kind of person he fully is and the choices he has made. this is where we're at in our trust of each other: i asked when the last time his ex-girlfriend fully understood him was, he said: she always fully understands me (and, of course, he meant even through the breakup). so I was silent for a while and then I asked him.. so how can you be dating me after just breaking up with your ex-girlfriend? which is really just us asking why we're together.
and we talked about his parents and what we want in life and idealism vs practicality and my high school days and the whole education-speech incident, which i haven't talked about in years, and about the people i thought i was in love with during my college days, and our very similar personality changes through the years and the standards we each still have, even if we have such different ways of expressing it now.
he said that (he likes me because) i am curious. he also said that a person who is interesting is like the stars in the sky they shine out at you.
I told him, I never expected so much. he said, from our relationship? i said "yes but also more" but i didn't elaborate but maybe what i mean is what i didn't say in the last post: i went to this temple where people pray for marriage/love and at that time it was the beginning of the relationship and i didn't have much faith, and the only sentence i prayed was that he would be good enough. .. good enough so that he will treat me rightly, but also good enough so that my heart can shake itself loose of all those ideals it once held and for once embrace something real.