what is marriage to you?
For my Thinking and Writing class, we have been reading essays on Gender in terms of sexism (from the male AND female perspective), sexual identity, and marriage. It was interesting to listen to my classmates and their views on marriage, i.e. same-sex marriage, divorce, and the effect these things have on children. I'm interested in reading more opinions on these subjects if anyone would like to respond to me :)
For me, marriage is a commitment you make because you can't (and don't want to) see yourself anywhere except with that person. It is a promise that you should keep for the rest of your life. I don't believe in divorce as a solution to "we're just not getting along anymore," unless other solutions are sought and nothing rectifies the problem. However, if abuse, verbal or physical, is involved, I can understand why divorce should happen.
When it comes to same-sex marriage, I don't see anything wrong with that. People tell me that since I'm a Christian, I should believe that same-sex relationships are sinful, etc. But I don't think the Bible should be taken verbatim. For some things, yes. But I think a lot of times, the things written in it were just written to reflect society at the time. I think we need to consider things based on what would be best for society as a whole. How is more love in the world a bad thing? If you asked someone who is against same-sex marriage if more love in the world would be a good thing, I'm sure they would say yes. But as soon as same-sex love was mentioned, it would suddenly be a different story. That's kind of like hypocrisy, isn't it?
We also discussed the effect same-sex parents would have on children. I don't see how it is any different from having a mom and a dad. There are children who are abused and are raised badly from straight parents, but that is rarely the argument. People say that if a Lesbian or Gay couple raise a child, their child will end up being Gay or Lesbian. That doesn't even make sense to me. It's all about the individual person. Yes, a person's upbringing is probably the basis of that person's being. However, aren't there people who were raised by straight parents, that ended up being gay anyways? I just don't understand the argument here.
Any other opinions? I might not have written my opinion very well since I'm trying to hurry and express my thoughts before class, so I'm sorry if it's not comprehensible. I'm interested in anything you have to say, regardless of whether you agree or disagree with me :)
For me, marriage is a commitment you make because you can't (and don't want to) see yourself anywhere except with that person. It is a promise that you should keep for the rest of your life. I don't believe in divorce as a solution to "we're just not getting along anymore," unless other solutions are sought and nothing rectifies the problem. However, if abuse, verbal or physical, is involved, I can understand why divorce should happen.
When it comes to same-sex marriage, I don't see anything wrong with that. People tell me that since I'm a Christian, I should believe that same-sex relationships are sinful, etc. But I don't think the Bible should be taken verbatim. For some things, yes. But I think a lot of times, the things written in it were just written to reflect society at the time. I think we need to consider things based on what would be best for society as a whole. How is more love in the world a bad thing? If you asked someone who is against same-sex marriage if more love in the world would be a good thing, I'm sure they would say yes. But as soon as same-sex love was mentioned, it would suddenly be a different story. That's kind of like hypocrisy, isn't it?
We also discussed the effect same-sex parents would have on children. I don't see how it is any different from having a mom and a dad. There are children who are abused and are raised badly from straight parents, but that is rarely the argument. People say that if a Lesbian or Gay couple raise a child, their child will end up being Gay or Lesbian. That doesn't even make sense to me. It's all about the individual person. Yes, a person's upbringing is probably the basis of that person's being. However, aren't there people who were raised by straight parents, that ended up being gay anyways? I just don't understand the argument here.
Any other opinions? I might not have written my opinion very well since I'm trying to hurry and express my thoughts before class, so I'm sorry if it's not comprehensible. I'm interested in anything you have to say, regardless of whether you agree or disagree with me :)