Can't wrap my mind around it.
Hello! First time posting to this community, but I've been following along for a bit. I've seen quite a few posts about the thought processes of those of us who are child free, and it got me thinking. I have a friend who had a miscarriage a few years ago, and it devestated her, but she's moving on now and thinking of her future and having kids. Luckily, she's completely accepting of my mindset, and promises that if she ever does get pregnent she'll stay away until the crazy is done.
But the thing is, and what prompted this post, is that I literally cannot fathom the desire to have kids. It just doesn't register for me. The very thought of having a kid is repulsive. The idea of a parasite living inside of me for 9 months brings only the image of Alien to mind. But I know there are some people, like my friend, who really want a child and like the idea of growing the little monster inside of them. It makes them go all... weird.
I just... I don't know how to explain this better, but it's like my very genetic code is geared towards not wanting kids, whereas other people are wired to want lots of babies. Does anyone else have this disconnect? I don't mean just a desire to not have kids, but a bone deep repulsion and a very real confusion as to why anyone would want to go through that?
My mom and I have talked about this before, and whereas she sees a pregnant woman and thinks it's lovely, I see a crazy woman waiting to explode. She thinks it's the most amazing thing in the world, and I'm honestly grossed out and confused as to why anyone would do that themselves.
If there is something in me that's hardwired differnetly, it would certainly explain why some people just don't understand why I don't want children, the same way I can't understand why they would.
But the thing is, and what prompted this post, is that I literally cannot fathom the desire to have kids. It just doesn't register for me. The very thought of having a kid is repulsive. The idea of a parasite living inside of me for 9 months brings only the image of Alien to mind. But I know there are some people, like my friend, who really want a child and like the idea of growing the little monster inside of them. It makes them go all... weird.
I just... I don't know how to explain this better, but it's like my very genetic code is geared towards not wanting kids, whereas other people are wired to want lots of babies. Does anyone else have this disconnect? I don't mean just a desire to not have kids, but a bone deep repulsion and a very real confusion as to why anyone would want to go through that?
My mom and I have talked about this before, and whereas she sees a pregnant woman and thinks it's lovely, I see a crazy woman waiting to explode. She thinks it's the most amazing thing in the world, and I'm honestly grossed out and confused as to why anyone would do that themselves.
If there is something in me that's hardwired differnetly, it would certainly explain why some people just don't understand why I don't want children, the same way I can't understand why they would.