Joey says:clumsy_healerNovember 10 2004, 17:47:58 UTC
I'd just like to let it be known that the entry I placed in Miranda's livejournal was in no way specifically directed at you. Kat's post about love being about compromise inspired a pretty damn good talk between me and Miranda about our feelings on love and its purpose and background, and she enjoyed my idea so much that she wanted to make a post about it. Me being me, I decided to jump in and write the thing myself in a far more demeaning manner. So do me a favor and don't take it personally, because it truly wasn't a personal attack. It was more of an open letter to all the retards I had to listen to in highschool complain about their stupid bullshit. Or at least, that's the way it was formed in my mind. Of course, there are a lot of specific references to Kat's posts, but that's mostly because I couldn't think of any exact examples of things that I didn't agree with, so I just kind of used the ones that were already on my mind.
All that said, you ask the question, "What do you do if your 'loved one' wanted to go on a cruise with someone hotter than you?" (I've rewritten the question in my own words, of course, but I think that it captures the essence of the original.) Your proposed answer is that you could let them go, but that it would eat you up inside. In my experience and personal belief, so long as there is a foundation of love, your proposed answer is ludicrous. If you love someone, you don't drop them for a hot piece of ass, so to speak. But more importantly, and more directly related to your question, if you love someone, you trust them not to drop you for a hot piece of ass.
But y'know what? Sometimes people fuck up. Sometimes people get drunk or horny or some other little bit of everyday life gets in the way, and people fuck up. People who truly love their spouses and boyfriend or girlfriend occasionally fuck around. It happens. And it's hard as all hell to get over. It's the cardinal sin of dating in a big way for one very big reason: when it happens, trust is broken. It's incredibly hard to trust someone once they've given you a reason not to. It's incredibly hard to love someone once they've given you a reason not to. The two words are literally fucking synonomous here. I think that the big picture that I'm trying to convey here is that love doesn't make you paranoid. Love, in fact, stifles paranoia. Hormones, greed, and insecurity cause paranoia. "Everyday life", as I'm so fond of calling it, creates all the bad shit and the drama and the uncomfortable situations, where as love is an ideal (others include friendship and religion, just as an example) that acts as an escape from everyday drudgery. If it wasn't, why would you want to obtain it?
I'm kind of babbling at this point, and I've somewhat trapped myself in a corner in an attempt to make the association that I'm trying to make, so I hope that you can read between the lines of what I've typed and get the information and ideas that I'm trying to get out. And yeah, I'm aware that I haven't really rebuttled the vast majority of what you've written, but that's msotly because this has taken me half an hour and is long as all fuck. But anyway, quit your bitching. You say you love someone, and that alone should make it all worth it. Do what you've got to do and put up with what you've got to put up with to get home and in the arms of someone you trust to make you feel less alone inside your head.
Re: Joey says:chavid_November 16 2004, 02:30:43 UTC
"But anyway, quit your bitching. You say you love someone, and that alone should make it all worth it. Do what you've got to do and put up with what you've got to put up with to get home and in the arms of someone you trust to make you feel less alone inside your head"
i really like that part. you know joey, you should really write for a living. every once in a while you manage to spit out somthign that is golden. u could do it i bet. i dunno.
so yeha, italked to yur woman on the hpone and she kinda explained it a little better, more compact i guess.
All that said, you ask the question, "What do you do if your 'loved one' wanted to go on a cruise with someone hotter than you?" (I've rewritten the question in my own words, of course, but I think that it captures the essence of the original.) Your proposed answer is that you could let them go, but that it would eat you up inside. In my experience and personal belief, so long as there is a foundation of love, your proposed answer is ludicrous. If you love someone, you don't drop them for a hot piece of ass, so to speak. But more importantly, and more directly related to your question, if you love someone, you trust them not to drop you for a hot piece of ass.
But y'know what? Sometimes people fuck up. Sometimes people get drunk or horny or some other little bit of everyday life gets in the way, and people fuck up. People who truly love their spouses and boyfriend or girlfriend occasionally fuck around. It happens. And it's hard as all hell to get over. It's the cardinal sin of dating in a big way for one very big reason: when it happens, trust is broken. It's incredibly hard to trust someone once they've given you a reason not to. It's incredibly hard to love someone once they've given you a reason not to. The two words are literally fucking synonomous here. I think that the big picture that I'm trying to convey here is that love doesn't make you paranoid. Love, in fact, stifles paranoia. Hormones, greed, and insecurity cause paranoia. "Everyday life", as I'm so fond of calling it, creates all the bad shit and the drama and the uncomfortable situations, where as love is an ideal (others include friendship and religion, just as an example) that acts as an escape from everyday drudgery. If it wasn't, why would you want to obtain it?
I'm kind of babbling at this point, and I've somewhat trapped myself in a corner in an attempt to make the association that I'm trying to make, so I hope that you can read between the lines of what I've typed and get the information and ideas that I'm trying to get out. And yeah, I'm aware that I haven't really rebuttled the vast majority of what you've written, but that's msotly because this has taken me half an hour and is long as all fuck. But anyway, quit your bitching. You say you love someone, and that alone should make it all worth it. Do what you've got to do and put up with what you've got to put up with to get home and in the arms of someone you trust to make you feel less alone inside your head.
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i really like that part. you know joey, you should really write for a living. every once in a while you manage to spit out somthign that is golden. u could do it i bet. i dunno.
so yeha, italked to yur woman on the hpone and she kinda explained it a little better, more compact i guess.
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