Comments | chaoticidealism: You're Out of Control!

chaoticidealism

You're Out of Control!

Jan 17, 2011 14:30

I have the emotional control of a six-year-old. Fortunately, I also have the emotional maturity of an adult.

Yes, they're different things.
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ehrenyu January 17 2011, 20:05:44 UTC

Ah yes. I've learned to just not express myself in public. I can't handle other peoples' reactions as I seem to have a bit of an echo effect when I don't have my 'complete calm' switch on. I giggle uncontrollably when others giggle. I laugh boisterously when others laugh. It's a kneejerk reaction. I don't seem to have the same reflex with smiling or frowning ( ... )

eternalnow999 January 18 2011, 22:18:31 UTC

I also am known to be calm. I am in a relationship with a woman, but I am the "woman" in the relationship due to high emotional intelligence. She is quite NT.

ext_395668 January 18 2011, 05:55:27 UTC

Normally I concede to your personal experience just as I would expect someone to accept my intimate knowledge of boxing to provide me with a high level of expertise about the sport and necessary skill set needed to be competitive. But in light of my conversation with a friend today, I am questioning whether or not you can control being in a situation where a meltdown may occur ( ... )

ext_395668 January 18 2011, 09:52:31 UTC

A problem I have with emotions is that I don't know what I am supposed to feel eg if someone laughs at me, am I supposed to laugh along too or should I feel insulted? Same if someone makes a rude remark, or is it rude? I don't know, so I tend to do nothing at the time but go away and try to figure it out, often asking numerous other people for the correct interpretation. Also if I know the person, I try to take their past behaviour into account to form a likely judgement, but when I try to explain to them why I have made the judgement I did, I get accused of bearing grudges or bringing up things that are not relevant. When I am extremely sleep deprived I lose my inhibitions ( like now) I say whatever pops into my mind, but this can backfire. I almost never cry because I'm not sure what the point of that is. I do worry a lot though.

chaoticidealism January 18 2011, 16:09:50 UTC

Yeah, it's difficult. If you ever figure out when teasing is supposed to be friendly and when it's not, please tell me, because I haven't got a clue either...

ext_395668 May 12 2011, 13:26:05 UTC

Generally I assume it's friendly if it's coming from someone who is a friend, who does not otherwise appear angry or upset with me. Otherwise, I tend to assume it's someone being mean. But I try not to show that, really, because I used to get in big trouble for crying because someone picked on me, when it was "obvious they were only joking". Once I even got detention, because they thought I was actually trying to get some poor kid in my class in trouble, when everyone around knew it was just a joke (besides me).

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foundunicorn January 18 2011, 17:51:28 UTC

Long, but good read.
In some way I have always ben very emotional maturer, But if I'm driven to the point of showing emotions, it may not go well.

Thank you anonymous January 18 2011, 20:06:13 UTC

Your blog, and especially this post has helped me enormously. I'm the parent of a 7 year old boy that has been diagnosed with severe ADHD. One of his doctors recommended tested for Autism, as well. Reading your blog has given me insight on some of his behaviors that have simply boggled me, previously... and I just wanted to say thanks.

(I hope you don't mind, I have linked your blog in one of my blog posts. If you want, I will remove it. You can find me at http://assumptionsareevil.blogspot.com/)

Control eternalnow999 January 18 2011, 22:16:21 UTC

I have this but it is more subtle. People can tell when I like them. I don't simply fawn over people or anything like that; it's just that it's obvious. Maybe they see it in my eyes. I am beginning to think that others are overwhelmed by this.