Yeah, I... really care about this person but it's just. I don't know if we could ever work out?
And I think maybe I could find feelings some day, I mean statistically speaking arranged marriages last more often than 'romantic' ones - which people in successful arranged marriages will tell you is because they learned to love each other.
I tell anyone that wants to be in a relationship with me how I am, and if after that they're still willing? I don't really see the point in arguing. I've only ended one relationship I was in and it was entirely because we had an agreement about my discomfort with sex and they couldn't deal with that agreement anymore. Instead of breaking it off they manipulated me into doing things I didn't want to do and I eventually had to shut them out.
I guess I'm naive in that sense, if I say 'I don't do sex' and you say 'okay' I think you must really want to have something to do with me if you're willing to put that aside because of me. So, for me to say 'look I don't think I'd ever want to be physically involved with you, nothing personal. Just the way I am.' and them to say that it's still worth it to them... it just makes me feel like being with me is that important to me, so maybe it's worth trying.
When it's not worth it to them anymore they'll let me know, one way or another and we'll just go from there.
And I think maybe I could find feelings some day, I mean statistically speaking arranged marriages last more often than 'romantic' ones - which people in successful arranged marriages will tell you is because they learned to love each other.
I tell anyone that wants to be in a relationship with me how I am, and if after that they're still willing? I don't really see the point in arguing. I've only ended one relationship I was in and it was entirely because we had an agreement about my discomfort with sex and they couldn't deal with that agreement anymore. Instead of breaking it off they manipulated me into doing things I didn't want to do and I eventually had to shut them out.
I guess I'm naive in that sense, if I say 'I don't do sex' and you say 'okay' I think you must really want to have something to do with me if you're willing to put that aside because of me. So, for me to say 'look I don't think I'd ever want to be physically involved with you, nothing personal. Just the way I am.' and them to say that it's still worth it to them... it just makes me feel like being with me is that important to me, so maybe it's worth trying.
When it's not worth it to them anymore they'll let me know, one way or another and we'll just go from there.
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