i am so sick and tired of drama
i have noted that mature people have excellent problem solving skills. they tackle the problem head on in the most direct way possible. the first step to doing this, of course, is to identify the actual problem, or in some cases, the root problem. this done, planning is required to determine how easiest, fastest, and best to eradicate the problem. after that, execution (hopefully) eliminates the problem. after all is said and done, reflection helps to teach any mistakes that may have been made, and possibly offers aid in eliminating similar problems in the future. just because this method is thorough, by the way, does not mean that it is time consuming. this entire process can conceivably take seconds, depending on the nature, importance, and scope of the problem.
there are many variations to this system. the most immature, in my opinion, is the dramatic version. in this instance, the main objective is not to solve the problem at all. ultimately, solving the problem is secondary (at best). it may even be unimportant, despite this being a problem solving method. the main objective is to involve as many people as possible. this can be done very simply by notifying like minded individuals, who will aid you in your objective with very little, or even no, hinting or cajoling. the result is gossip. unlike the aforementioned method, the dramatic method always takes a long time, and may even continue indefinitely, because of the tendency of repetition: even after some kind of resolution is found (if one is ever found), the issue may rise again at any time, given the right circumstances.
there are many other methods of problem solving. some are effective, some are completely ineffective, most fall somewhere in between. but i see these two happen the most often.
now everyone reading this knows that i brought this up for a reason. that reason does not mirror the 'dramatic problem solving method,' because i am not trying to solve anything at the moment. i'm just venting in an obscure manner, which is as undramatic as i can be at the moment. the alternative is to keep it bottled up and not post anything. i have decided not to do that for the two fold purpose of communication. i post this to vent, and someone (the obvious subject of my comparison) may choose to rectify his/her mistake. if not, then at least i got to vent, and gave this person the opportunity to see why i am upset . <--- click the period
*steps off soapbox*
in other news, noah and i are looking for a house, i'm planning my educational goals (a double degree in teaching at both the elementary and intermediate school levels, with a minor in biology), and i quit working at the garage. (i still show up there every now and again to learn about cars, but i don't have to worry about paperwork anymore. i feel good about this. that paperwork was endless.) also, i got a raise at my fitness instruction job, noah and i are both doing a lot of volunteer work at our church, and we are planning what we need to plan to sell this trailer.
also, noah and i went to his cousin's wedding this past weekend. of course, it put us in mind of our own wedding. looking back, it was a beautiful day. i don't think it could have been more perfect. that said, we are *so* glad it's over. now, it is a pleasant memory. then, we were stressed, juggling hurt feelings, way too much drama, and a lot of expense (financial and otherwise). planning a wedding is hard work. communication really is key to getting stuff like this done right, and hindsight really is 20/20. at least it is in the past, and the glorious day will always hold a treasured place in our hearts.
life, overall, is very good. we are both satisfied. i'll keep him around anyway. he cooks, after all. :)
there are many variations to this system. the most immature, in my opinion, is the dramatic version. in this instance, the main objective is not to solve the problem at all. ultimately, solving the problem is secondary (at best). it may even be unimportant, despite this being a problem solving method. the main objective is to involve as many people as possible. this can be done very simply by notifying like minded individuals, who will aid you in your objective with very little, or even no, hinting or cajoling. the result is gossip. unlike the aforementioned method, the dramatic method always takes a long time, and may even continue indefinitely, because of the tendency of repetition: even after some kind of resolution is found (if one is ever found), the issue may rise again at any time, given the right circumstances.
there are many other methods of problem solving. some are effective, some are completely ineffective, most fall somewhere in between. but i see these two happen the most often.
now everyone reading this knows that i brought this up for a reason. that reason does not mirror the 'dramatic problem solving method,' because i am not trying to solve anything at the moment. i'm just venting in an obscure manner, which is as undramatic as i can be at the moment. the alternative is to keep it bottled up and not post anything. i have decided not to do that for the two fold purpose of communication. i post this to vent, and someone (the obvious subject of my comparison) may choose to rectify his/her mistake. if not, then at least i got to vent, and gave this person the opportunity to see why i am upset . <--- click the period
*steps off soapbox*
in other news, noah and i are looking for a house, i'm planning my educational goals (a double degree in teaching at both the elementary and intermediate school levels, with a minor in biology), and i quit working at the garage. (i still show up there every now and again to learn about cars, but i don't have to worry about paperwork anymore. i feel good about this. that paperwork was endless.) also, i got a raise at my fitness instruction job, noah and i are both doing a lot of volunteer work at our church, and we are planning what we need to plan to sell this trailer.
also, noah and i went to his cousin's wedding this past weekend. of course, it put us in mind of our own wedding. looking back, it was a beautiful day. i don't think it could have been more perfect. that said, we are *so* glad it's over. now, it is a pleasant memory. then, we were stressed, juggling hurt feelings, way too much drama, and a lot of expense (financial and otherwise). planning a wedding is hard work. communication really is key to getting stuff like this done right, and hindsight really is 20/20. at least it is in the past, and the glorious day will always hold a treasured place in our hearts.
life, overall, is very good. we are both satisfied. i'll keep him around anyway. he cooks, after all. :)