update
mom and i were working on the dresses again tonight, and it's really coming along. we have only the sleeves left on mine, michelle's, and melissa's to finish followed by some minor altering. (desi didn't get her measurements to us until really late) after we finish the dresses for the wedding court proper, we just have the dresses for the junior bridesmaids, and mom and i can do both of those in half a day. they're really simple. i got to try on my dress for the first time today. this wedding thing has been, for me, just a series of checklists. i love my family and i'm quickly learning to love his family. i know that we are publicly joining ourselves and our families, and i have been married to noah privately for over a year. to me, it seemed that the change this november would come only from society at large, because we are already husband and wife to each other. but i felt that dress around me, and something finally hit home.
i'm getting married.
to those of you who knew me when i never dated fewer than two guys at a time, and as many as seven, and most of them only lasted a month (or less), you probably understand what i am about to say. we *will* change on that day. he is no more or less my husband now than he will be after november the 11th, but the world has not yet accepted that. we will both be different people to those we know and love and work with, as well as those who don't know us at all, such as whoever processes our next tax return after we mail it in, or our automotive insurance agent. no man (or marriage) is an island, so this change in everyone around us will change us. all this planning is important, this preparation has a significant place, to attest that we are ready for this change. i will be joined with a man (the man of my dreams), and he will join with me in a public display of commitment, and joining of families, and an all around very emotional time.
as i sit here thinking on this, i realize that i myself have practiced this. it is a well known fact that i highly dislike my brother's wife, and that i am dubious of my sister's boyfriend. when noah and i prepared the invitations, i automatically invited alex *and michele*, and melissa *and guest*, even though i clearly and determinately despise michele far more than i dislike tink. everyone around us is going to make that same determination about us in the same way, that we are more than just "together". we are one.
in a day and age where marriage means little and engagement means less, i pray that he and i (like my parents) can be a beacon of reason and, dare i say it?, love.
maybe some of you will pray for me and noah too.
EDIT: it has come to my attention, via a circuitous manner, that this post has offended someone. I have two things to say in regards to this incident.
#1 there are no defaming comments made herein that have not been made directly to the subject's face. i am not in the habit of hiding my thoughts, in public view or in private conversation.
#2 i do not respond well to things i hear "through the grapevine." i tell people what i think of them without the drama of involving others. i demand the same courtesy. if you have something to say about me or to me, do so to my face. (or over the phone, as the case may be.)
in closing, i have not done anything wrong here. this post was a social comment on the reality of marriage. it was not intended to slight anyone. if i wanted to offend someone, i would have done so in my usual, blunt, honest manner.
i'm getting married.
to those of you who knew me when i never dated fewer than two guys at a time, and as many as seven, and most of them only lasted a month (or less), you probably understand what i am about to say. we *will* change on that day. he is no more or less my husband now than he will be after november the 11th, but the world has not yet accepted that. we will both be different people to those we know and love and work with, as well as those who don't know us at all, such as whoever processes our next tax return after we mail it in, or our automotive insurance agent. no man (or marriage) is an island, so this change in everyone around us will change us. all this planning is important, this preparation has a significant place, to attest that we are ready for this change. i will be joined with a man (the man of my dreams), and he will join with me in a public display of commitment, and joining of families, and an all around very emotional time.
as i sit here thinking on this, i realize that i myself have practiced this. it is a well known fact that i highly dislike my brother's wife, and that i am dubious of my sister's boyfriend. when noah and i prepared the invitations, i automatically invited alex *and michele*, and melissa *and guest*, even though i clearly and determinately despise michele far more than i dislike tink. everyone around us is going to make that same determination about us in the same way, that we are more than just "together". we are one.
in a day and age where marriage means little and engagement means less, i pray that he and i (like my parents) can be a beacon of reason and, dare i say it?, love.
maybe some of you will pray for me and noah too.
EDIT: it has come to my attention, via a circuitous manner, that this post has offended someone. I have two things to say in regards to this incident.
#1 there are no defaming comments made herein that have not been made directly to the subject's face. i am not in the habit of hiding my thoughts, in public view or in private conversation.
#2 i do not respond well to things i hear "through the grapevine." i tell people what i think of them without the drama of involving others. i demand the same courtesy. if you have something to say about me or to me, do so to my face. (or over the phone, as the case may be.)
in closing, i have not done anything wrong here. this post was a social comment on the reality of marriage. it was not intended to slight anyone. if i wanted to offend someone, i would have done so in my usual, blunt, honest manner.