Jun 04, 2009 01:09
So i wish i was like Mel Gibson in What Women Want, except i would like to hear inside a mans head, not a womans. but then again i believe thats how every woman on this planet feels. however men are pretty simple minded, from what i have seen they act on what they want to act apon and avoid what they dont want. simple as that. no strings attached. but there are those other times, when you think you have them figured out and they give you all the right signs leading in a good direction, one thing doesnt fit and it screws up the entire process. from past experiences, when a guy has been really really interested in me, he always wanted to hang out. always wanted to do something. always wanted to be around me, even if it meant putting off a couple of other priorities. and unfortunetly, thats how i get when i really like a guy. got somethin goin on at 2, oh yeah i will go hang out with you at 1:30 who cares if im late. i hate thats how i get, but i always feel like if i dont do it now then the opportunity will never rise again. its a shitty feeling. its not like i want a guy thats obsessed with me 24/7, i have had that before and didnt like it at all. i want a guy that will fit me into his life, not make it all revolve around me. however, when they do decide to fit me in, the times that they decide they dont want to be around me, is a phone call too hard to make? no not even a phone call, it can be a damn text. just as long as im informed that you got other plans going on and they were just wanting to see what was up and get together sometime later. or something. shit. i know this is stupid trying to get guys to be perfect when they are clearly incapeable of completly satisfying a girl, but when u get to a certain point they could at least try a little harder. im in a weird situation right now, and its starting to feel like im just a "convienence" for him. its like he thinks, well im not doing anything with my other friends today, why dont i call her and see if she wants to hang out. but when other plans are going on, im definitely not on his mind. or so i think. the way i see it is, the more you progess towards a "relationship" or whatever the hell they become, then typically staying in contact with the other person becomes pretty common. and im not saying have 5 hour long conversations 3 times a day. i mean just sending a simple ass text saying hey whats up? hanging with the friends today, talk to you soon tho? I would be perfectly fine with that. no, i would be seriously happy with that. i hate talking on the phone anyways, convos get to awkard. but anyways right now i feel like its a constant "we just met so i dont have to let u know whats going on at all" stage. so going a few days without talking seems perfectly fine to him, even though we have definitely cleared past that stage (seeing as we have been friends for 3 years and definitely had plenty of time to get past that). if i was to say all the things that have been going on, any sane girl would tell me "honey, obviously he just doesnt like you that much." and typically when it gets to this point i do say that and decide hey, its time to move on. howabout i make a list to make myself feel better.
-he never texts me, i text him
-when i do talk to him, usually he is busy doing something and says he will call me when he is done
-typically that ends in a no call.
-if i dont text him, i dont hear from him. at all.
-sometimes, i just dont get a reply
-he tells me that if we went to the same college, then we would definitely be going out. if you really liked me though, why does it matter where we go to school?
okay so if you saw this list i think everyone in their right mind would tell me to open my eyes and just forget the douche bag that im wasting time on. but then there is this list..
-when we hang out, we do lots of different things, never the same thing (no booty calls)
-he always finds a way to sneak in a kiss at some point
-doesnt hide his affection in front of his friends (which doesnt seem like a big deal)
-but he treats me the same way around his parents, so does that say something?
-gets nosey with my texts (maybe thats anybody, idk)
-i believe he actually got offended when i reffered to him in one of my texts as "a friend"
-when meeting somewhere, he will call me until i show up (which i dont know if thats a big deal, but to me it makes me feel like he cares if im there)
-feels like we are bf and gf. but only when we are together.
after disecting these lists, i have come to the conclusion that i am merely a convieniece. which really sucks, especially when you start to fall for the guy. guess thats what i get for trying to think someone actually wanted to be with me.