So a couple nights ago was an incredibly hard time for both Raven and I.  I because of grief and sorrow about impending loss combined with hanging out with a friend who annoys and overloads me. And Raven about the latest book on food and the future of food security he had read.
We're both grappling with this stuff still, but this Night took a lot of ( Read more... )

I’ve been seeing so much recently on the ‘webs and in society in general about “usual” people “most people” the idea that there’s one standard that people should live up to or that there’s some cosmic totem pole we’re all arranged on from best to worst. That the “Norm” is inherently better, that the “outliers” are inherently better.

All of ( Read more... )

Ok, I'm back from low-spoons week ( Read more... )

In some ways SM almost seems to be about emulating or channeling divinity.  The top is omnipotent, and the bottom is immortal.  The top can not only literally do anything but also knows deep things about their partner (omniscience?) and can have the experience of exercising that power justly. The feeling of just passing through things that may kill ( Read more... )

OK : Warning this is going to be a really rough draft.  But I've been thinking about this for years and I'm finally getting to the point where I can sorta-write about it.  I know - I come up with big Ideas, but it can take months/years to say them - it makes for sucky conversation.  And the latest post on SM-F triggered this.  Because I see one ( Read more... )