(This is somewhat stream-of-consciousness.)
This morning in torah study we talked about this part of Nitzavim:
"And not with you alone will I make this covenant and this oath, but
with him who stands here with us this day before the Lord our God,
and also with him who is not here with us this day" (Deut 29:13-14).
The context is Moshe's final address to Israel; we can prety much
take as given that this is not referring to people who slept in that
morning. The rabbis understand this as a source for the covenant being
binding on all Jews, the ones who stood at Sinai as well as those who
came later. In other words, Judaism claims you by virtue of your birth.
(I knew that, of course, but I learned a new term for it: "birthright dogma".)
This is hardly unusual; some other religions do this either as a birth
condition or based on an action that your parents take very soon thereafter.
We say "once a Jew always a Jew"; the Roman Catholic church says the
same thing once you've been baptised. Surely there are others.
(I'm not sure if Muslim status is automatic at birth; I have the
impression it is.)
Some modern Jews have a problem with this, but I don't. We're born
into other obligations that we got no say over; why should this be
different? The issue to me isn't what you're born to but what you're
going to do about it and what anyone else can or should do about it.
As a convert from one "we claim you forever" religion to another, I
find myself in an interesting position.
There are folks out there who try to preach obligation to the
people they see straying -- and that just doesn't work. The church
thinks I'm a lapsed, sinning Catholic -- fine for them, but I
don't care, because I don't subscribe to their belief system.
That they think they have a claim on me means nothing to me; I think
they're wrong. (No offense meant to my Catholic readers, of course.)
Any attempt to reach me via the "but you have to" path would utterly
fail. (Ok, any attempt to reach me at all would fail now, but
there might have been times in my life when that was not true.) And we
have this in Judaism too; there are people who are very concerned with
bringing back those who've strayed by going down the "obligation" path.
Going down the "benefit" path is much more likely to be productive.
You'll almost never succeed (long-term) in intimidating people, but if
you can show them the beauty, fulfillment, or richness of a religion
or tradition, you might hook them. Chabad, for all its other
problems, gets this; the people who stone cars on Shabbat do not.
If status is forever, then we should be picky about entrance criteria
when we can be. If a gentile eats bacon cheeseburgers on Yom Kippur,
so what? But once he becomes a Jew, he's sinning. if the members of
the beit din (the rabbinic court) think he's not committed, they can
and should tell him "not now". This is part of why Judaism requires
a significant period of study and evaluation, which can take years.
The rabbis on the beit din need to assure themselves that they
aren't making things worse for K'lal Yisrael (the community of Israel),
while of course also weighing the issues of the individual candidate.
As a candidate I expected that kind of rigor and would have been
unhappy if I hadn't gotten it. (In fact, during my studies I met
one local rabbi who said "I always say yes", and I made sure that
rabbi was not on my beit din.)
Somehow from here we ended up talking about interfaith families, but
that's another set of topics for another time.