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Coming up on the tail end of my trip out to Mississippi to visit Riley's parents and extended close family (aunt/uncle/cousins/grandfather) for Christmas.
It's a big step, I guess. Or least it should be. Idk, this is brand new territory for both of us. All of his family members are wonderful though - very warm and welcoming and super excited to meet me as has been vocalized many times hahaha. Guess they've been waiting for him to bring someone around same as my parents. His mom and dad are very much like Riley - warm, lively, intelligent, and liberal AF. It's no wonder, he is the man that he is. His aunt Shawn and uncle David are the true definition of good Christians - if I had been raised in that family or environment I definitely would be more of a faith-based person. His cousins - Lizzie and Stewart - who I already met in DC are so great and sweet. Lizzie is very bubbly and extroverted and more liberal from what I can tell and Stewart is a new-mom-to-be. She's the sweetest, very earnest and Southern. Former sorority girl who married her college sweetheart just a few years after dating and a few years later is now pregs with the first grand- and greatgrant- baby on both sides. Lots of emotional familial joy around these people - haha. His grandfather - wow what a guy. He turned 95 this year - born in 1921 in the year of the Rooster! He's sharp and so witty and really great to talk to - not just the stories of his life but just about the world/life/literature/etc. It was truly a blessing to get to meet him (as he's struggled with health issues in the recent years after his wife's death) and he apparently really likes me so yay!
But yeah. That's quite a thing. Meeting family.
My mother of course immediately asked when is he going to propose. which good god mother, it's only been six months. There are many kinks to still work out lol. I don't think until we've reached the one year mark that I would even be comfortable saying yes. There's so much more I need to figure out about myself and my career and life before I can even consider being a wife. There's a whole lot more I need to know about him and experience with him - not to mention at least living together and understanding our finances - before I think it's even a conversation starter.
There's also the question of what land mines and deal breakers are out there that we don't even realize yet...
I know everybody says just enjoy your time now but realistically - I am going to overthink it to death. It's just whether and how I act on it haha. I have a tendency to sulk.
It's a big step, I guess. Or least it should be. Idk, this is brand new territory for both of us. All of his family members are wonderful though - very warm and welcoming and super excited to meet me as has been vocalized many times hahaha. Guess they've been waiting for him to bring someone around same as my parents. His mom and dad are very much like Riley - warm, lively, intelligent, and liberal AF. It's no wonder, he is the man that he is. His aunt Shawn and uncle David are the true definition of good Christians - if I had been raised in that family or environment I definitely would be more of a faith-based person. His cousins - Lizzie and Stewart - who I already met in DC are so great and sweet. Lizzie is very bubbly and extroverted and more liberal from what I can tell and Stewart is a new-mom-to-be. She's the sweetest, very earnest and Southern. Former sorority girl who married her college sweetheart just a few years after dating and a few years later is now pregs with the first grand- and greatgrant- baby on both sides. Lots of emotional familial joy around these people - haha. His grandfather - wow what a guy. He turned 95 this year - born in 1921 in the year of the Rooster! He's sharp and so witty and really great to talk to - not just the stories of his life but just about the world/life/literature/etc. It was truly a blessing to get to meet him (as he's struggled with health issues in the recent years after his wife's death) and he apparently really likes me so yay!
But yeah. That's quite a thing. Meeting family.
My mother of course immediately asked when is he going to propose. which good god mother, it's only been six months. There are many kinks to still work out lol. I don't think until we've reached the one year mark that I would even be comfortable saying yes. There's so much more I need to figure out about myself and my career and life before I can even consider being a wife. There's a whole lot more I need to know about him and experience with him - not to mention at least living together and understanding our finances - before I think it's even a conversation starter.
There's also the question of what land mines and deal breakers are out there that we don't even realize yet...
I know everybody says just enjoy your time now but realistically - I am going to overthink it to death. It's just whether and how I act on it haha. I have a tendency to sulk.