I'm not a girl, don't tell me what to believe. I'm just trying to find the woman in me....

[catcheshiseye]

GAHD.

Anyway. Things have been nuts. School. Work. Relationships. Clarice. Everything is in warp speed and all I can do is play "Fish Tycoon."

Turns out that my boyf (not The BedMate) is dying of melanoma . Last week, his doctor gave him 3-4 months. We both knew he was sick, but I never thought it was gonna happen all so quickly. His doctor told him

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From experience...

[loristewart]

Spend every moment you can with your sick friend right now -- after he is gone, you'll be glad you did. What I wouldn't give for one more day with Kendrick. Knowing that he is dying won't change how much you care for him or how much he cares for you. Nor will it change the things you love to do together - cook, garden and get stoned to your heart's content! Stop worrying about what to say and what his family thinks. Just be who you have always been. And remember, perhaps the greatest gift you can give to him is to allow him to talk to you about his own death. Many in his family will refuse to acknowledge it and he may really need to talk about it.

It is the hardest thing in the world to watch death creep slowly towards someone we love, knowing that there is nothing we can do to stop it. All we can do is hold them a little closer, love them a little more honestly and freely, help to live a little more and then help them to die with dignity and grace. It sucks and it's hard - but I have faith in you! You can do it Duffy Lou!

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Call me if you need me.

Re: From experience...

[catcheshiseye]

Thank you *bear hug*