No Longer Sitting on the Fence

[candygirlnj]

Warning: This might offend people who pretend they are open minded but are just as narrow minded as those they point the finger atWhat I'm about to say might anger some, surprise others and alienate some who know me. For once, I am NOT censoring myself or being diplomatic. There is a reason for that. I don't intend to piss off anyone or hurt anyone

Comments

[bdouville]

First of all, early on in the post, I started hearing that song in my head, "The purpose of man is to love a woman, the purpose of a woman is to love a man, so come on baby..." (I think it's called "The Game of Love").

Second, it would be hard for me to "clobber you with my rainbow flag" because I don't have one, and even if I did, flags aren't that good for clobbering unless you roll them up really tightly. :)

Now, on a more serious note, I don't hate you, nor am I angry that you are writing this. If you truly believe that acting on your same-sex attractions is wrong, then you must be faithful to your principles. And as you say, you are also attracted to males.

The journey that you intend to take is much, much more difficult for those that are either exclusively or at least very, very strongly attracted to persons of the same sex. When I am attracted to a male, even being near him generate a sense like electricity. It's like it alters the chemistry of my body and brain. Denying that it exists wouldn't do me much good. At the very least, I have learned to make peace with my sexual desires, even if that means not being governed by them.

Personally, I don't equate my sexual desires with a desire to steal (a common analogy), or a desire for alcohol (also an analogy used by folks in the ex-gay movement). I don't hate my sexuality, though I wouldn't trust it enough to grant it free reign either. I guess that I have a different sexual ethic from yours.

All the best in your pursuit of happiness. I only issue this caution: what works for you may not work for others. Rather, it may bring guilt, frustration and oppression to others. But I respect your right to make personal choices for your well-being.

[candygirlnj]

Hey there :) Thanks for taking the time to reply to me. I found what you said about your attraction to men is so strong it alters your chemistry. I know what that feels like but I'm at a point where I can say "Well..so what?" Yeah it may feel terrific to be near a girl and the way girls might make me feel but that feeling is dissipating..it's going away but probably not entirely which im cool with. I can accept the feeling if it came my way but I don't have to take it that STEP further if you get my drift. I'm not saying to other gay people, you must feel this way or you must deny your sexuality but it's only my journey. My opinion, my feelings. To each his/her own. :) God bless!