frustration
So today was a pretty good day. Things are going well.
Well, I was recently informed that someone I know, who's sixteen and in a semi-long distance relationship, got into a car accident because basically her head was not on the road. Because of things going on with the guy, she wasn't focused on driving, but instead focused on those things. She hasn't even had her license for a month and already has been in an accident and has gotten 3 parking tickets. No one was seriously hurt, the other car was fine, only her car took damage. That's not what this is about.
It frustrates me to know that I've been where she is. Not the accident part, but the being distracted part. The guy she's with has been an ass to her on multiple occasions. I know a good deal about what he's done because of what's been told to me through her brother. So many of the things he's done have been done to me by an ex. I'm not going into details, but it hurts me so much to see her going through all this. I feel like I'm watching myself going through it again, watching from the outside, wanting to pull myself out of it. I know that what's happening is not right; I know what she needs to do, but I also know that when I was in her position, I wouldn't have listened to anyone who tried to tell me what I needed to do. It hurts me so much to know that I went through it, I know what I should've done, and I don't want to see her suffer like I did.
I know what will happen. She'll stay with him, despite how he treats her, continually telling him that it's his last chance. Over and over, he'll keep hurting her, keep causing problems, and they'll make up. He'll promise to be better; she'll give him another chance. She'll keep hoping things will change, because, after all, he loves her, and she loves him, so she can't leave him. It will go on for a while before she realizes that she really can't stay with him. Or worse. Who knows what he might do? Honestly, the guy is so much like two or three of my exes combined. I want to help so badly, but I know that nothing I can say will help her. She has to figure it out on her own, just like I did. It will hurt; more than anything, it will hurt. She'll move on, and then she'll look back and think the same things I'm thinking now.
She shouldn't have to. I should be able to help her, before he hurts her more.
Well, I was recently informed that someone I know, who's sixteen and in a semi-long distance relationship, got into a car accident because basically her head was not on the road. Because of things going on with the guy, she wasn't focused on driving, but instead focused on those things. She hasn't even had her license for a month and already has been in an accident and has gotten 3 parking tickets. No one was seriously hurt, the other car was fine, only her car took damage. That's not what this is about.
It frustrates me to know that I've been where she is. Not the accident part, but the being distracted part. The guy she's with has been an ass to her on multiple occasions. I know a good deal about what he's done because of what's been told to me through her brother. So many of the things he's done have been done to me by an ex. I'm not going into details, but it hurts me so much to see her going through all this. I feel like I'm watching myself going through it again, watching from the outside, wanting to pull myself out of it. I know that what's happening is not right; I know what she needs to do, but I also know that when I was in her position, I wouldn't have listened to anyone who tried to tell me what I needed to do. It hurts me so much to know that I went through it, I know what I should've done, and I don't want to see her suffer like I did.
I know what will happen. She'll stay with him, despite how he treats her, continually telling him that it's his last chance. Over and over, he'll keep hurting her, keep causing problems, and they'll make up. He'll promise to be better; she'll give him another chance. She'll keep hoping things will change, because, after all, he loves her, and she loves him, so she can't leave him. It will go on for a while before she realizes that she really can't stay with him. Or worse. Who knows what he might do? Honestly, the guy is so much like two or three of my exes combined. I want to help so badly, but I know that nothing I can say will help her. She has to figure it out on her own, just like I did. It will hurt; more than anything, it will hurt. She'll move on, and then she'll look back and think the same things I'm thinking now.
She shouldn't have to. I should be able to help her, before he hurts her more.