Q
When you - let's say, an American - write to an Englisher re: their mother, and particularly when they have just written of her as mum, -u, do you adopt English spelling or stick to your own? Would using theirs - because while she is close, personal, theirs, her preposition is just one of many, a distant word itself adopted - be pretentious like pronouncing things the French way, faking an accent for jarring false authenticity? Or would it be, I don't know, somehow respectful? Would the circumstances change this? Say that she had died? Is there sympathy in the spelling of things?