Aural sex and cunning linguists

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Heh, I know it's mean to laugh at your buddy's marital woes (especially if they're of the bedroom variety), but when recently-wed Kevin (Kev) lamented about his sad state of aural sex to Mike and me during a boys night out, we choked on our beer which came right back out through our nostrils! Uh-huh, that's aural sex (or the lack of it!) as in

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speaking from a (very) personal POV, women actually have the ability to orgasm so quietly no one around her can remotely tell. Only tell tale signs are probably a flushed face and chest (esp chest! looks very pink coz of the adrenaline rush)

yeah I know it for a fact. ;P

HOWEVER that is due to suppression of our vocal expression for fear of disturbing the neighbours, colleagues etc

If however, a guy can arouse her to the point she lose control of the suppression of her vocal expression, he must be damn good! (that can happen too and I'm speaking from experience)

the problem with women is its kinda hard to detach our mentality from our orgasms, harder if the woman is not someone who is very sexual in the first place, worse if she has something against sex.

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Not fair leh, there's no way for a guy to hide the Big-O unlike women. Tsk, so hard to read women ... even during sex! Hahaha! Seriously though, guys are sensory creatures so making some noise during orgasm will enhance his sexual pleasure and satisfaction lah. To us, stoney silence could mean we've failed to arouse the woman ... a big blow to our egos and possibly a turn-off too.

Erm, you mean the default for most women is to be not very vocal during sex? Geez, I doubt if guys worry much about disturbing the neighbours. Hmmm, it's interesting ... but I've observed that women tend to shy away from expressing themselves vocally as sexual beings. It's like enjoying sex is dirty? Why ah? Men, on the other hand, are pretty comfortable with sex. The more we enjoy it, the more vocal and physical we become. :)

I don't really understand the part about detaching mentality from orgasm. Erm, do you mean that women are very aware of themselves during sex and it's hard to just let go, be less inhibited, and just enjoy the ride?

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heheh it has to be communicated to the ladies loh. Personally I don't like to make noise for the sake of livening up the mood, which means.. i don't like faking my moans. ha ha! so uncooperative right? usually i just tell him straight even in the middle of sex that whatever he's doing then is not cutting it for me, so we'll change positions or he do something else to get me off. shit I think I reveal too much already LOL. TMI

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Wah, so informative. I like

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hahaha I thought so.. thats why I rather be straight forward with him heh.

another possible reason is that perhaps she thought the sounds she's making sound weird, or not sexy enough... frankly I had the same reservations initially too. haha but once we get it on, heck care already lah, scream like a banshee also dun care le. Thats why watching porn helps haha, so she knows that she's not making abnormal sounds :)

funny right? women will have such funny reservations? I guess we placed so much emphasis on our image that we want to avoid doing anything that makes us seem uncivilized or appear to lose control.. and thats what orgasm is about.. letting it go and lose control.

hahaha thats why it also depends on the sex drive of the person. Some people *cough* is anytime anywhere.. but some prefer to do it in a more atmospheric setting.. with candles lah perfume lah dim lights lah.. you name it.

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Yes, being straightforward is usually best with men ... erm, but within limits ok? For example, yawning loudly while he's madly pounding away is not a good idea. LOL!

Erm, but those women in porn are sometimes faking it one hor ... but I do see your point, which is to get her to relax, not be so inhibited and conscious about making herself sound/look "silly" during sex.

It's quite hilarious actually ... like a role reversal! Usually, men are the ones who want to be in control of their emotions, but when it comes to sex, it's the womenfolk! Then again, men tend to clown around and make a fool of themselves more often, so I guess they aren't afraid to look/sound/act silly during sex. Heh!

I also say! I've found that a conducive environment is very important ... and usually a massage to help her relax works wonders too. Gorillas have big, strong hands. *wink* Hahaha!