Aural sex and cunning linguists

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Heh, I know it's mean to laugh at your buddy's marital woes (especially if they're of the bedroom variety), but when recently-wed Kevin (Kev) lamented about his sad state of aural sex to Mike and me during a boys night out, we choked on our beer which came right back out through our nostrils! Uh-huh, that's aural sex (or the lack of it!) as in

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Why must guys hear us ladies during it ?? Is it such a turn on ?

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Truthfully? Yes! Coz males are sensory creatures (visual, aural, etc) and it gives us feedback on how we're performing, whether she's enjoying it, what she likes about our body, how she'd like us to please her ... think of it as another form of communication besides physical stuff like touching, hugging, kissing, etc. The more the couple communicates, the more fulfiling love-making will be methiinks.

Erm, talking dirty doesn't necessarily mean using swear words and vulgarities lah. That's not it. :)

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hahahaha .. does that include, "Ouch, you are hurting me!! Ouch!! You're pulling at my hair!!! Ewww... you stink!!!" ???

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Hoy, we do not "stink"! That's "nan ren wei" mah. Heh, the gal could suggest making out in the shower or long-bath. That way it's fun, naughty ... and he gets a bath too. ;)

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Hahahaa .... "nan ren wei"????!!!!

YOu have alot of steamy ideas ah??? Must be thinking and plotting all the time.

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Hoy, I do not plot one hor! Coming up with steamy ideas comes naturally lah ... part of my gorilla DNA. Heh!

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Hahaha .. I believe!

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Did I just stick my gorilla foot in my mouth again? DOH!

Been meaning to ask you ... do you do your own user icons or does Mark have a hand in them too? They're all rather unique leh. :)

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he help me??? I have to first tear him away from his WOW. Most of them I find online and some I crop myself and put up there.

No lah, I know you are very romantic and "sexy", It's good what!

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Heh, I thought Mark had a part to play in some of your more quirky icons mah. You have an interesting choice of icons ... and I notice you like fairies?

I where got lomantik lah. But I can live with sexy. Hahaha! Yah, right!

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Hahahah .. I do like fairies. Actually I like anything that has wings like butterflies, fairies and angels. I dont like bugs though!

I think "sexy" is over reacted especially during sex. So much focus is placed on the "lust", the physical pleasure and the physical enticement of it and not enough on the bonding and the emotional part of it. It's like, ppl just want to get to the act of it and then bing bang boom, you are done. Maybe bcoz I'm married and also I'm female which is causing me to have these tboughts but I seriously think that maybe we should refocused on the meotinal part of it.. dont you think?

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Methinks you like beautiful, and "magical" things with a hint of innocence. Butterflies, fairies, angels ... they all have this aura about them.

I must admit that guys seem to have more lustful cravings than women. But speaking as a guy who has experienced both ends of the spectrum, I completely agree with you that love-making is taken to a whole new dimension and emotional high when there's not only physical chemistry between the couple, but also a very strong emotional bond. The feeling is very different, even for a guy. I dunno how to put it exactly, but it's like sex becomes an extension of the couple, an expression of the love they share. It's something pretty special alright. :)

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oh yeah .. it's great when there is the physical chemistry but it does make it better when you have that emotional chemistry which bonds two people together.

I dont know I get irritated when I see how sex is being portrayed these days. It's all about lust. It kinda devalues and for a lack of better word, cheapens and "animalised" sex, dont you think?

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Erm, don't whack me for being honest ok? I think men and women view sex very differently, probably due to the way we're wired by Mother Nature. For guys, our sexual desires can sometimes be purely lust-driven without the need for any emotional fulfilment. So lustful sex may not necessarily cheapen sex per se, since sex for us may or may not require emotional bonding. It depends on who we have sex with I guess?

The fact that most women refer to sex as "making love" is very telling. It implies not just physical gratification, but also emotional bonding and fulfilment (love). Of coz, it doesn't mean that men are not capable of making love and enjoying it. It's just that we're capable of enjoying sex at different levels of emotional bonding, depending on our frame of mind.

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Oh yeah, I totally agree and I guess "media sex" is usually more tailored to men although I have to say that women these days are beginning to view and treat sex in the same way men do ( not that it's a lesser way of thinking.)

Oh I wanted to ask you this. Why do you say that my icons are unique? I mean, they are just a bunch of my personal pics. I wanted to ask bcoz I want to know what you can tell of me from my icons. Me vain lah! hehe

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Your icons har? Well, firstly there are those of people/things you love ... hubby, family, doggies, girly stuff, etc. Also, the 70's one for the era you're born in? I guess these are the little snippets of your life.

Then there are the fairy, angel and little princess dog ones that hint of your love for things sweet, magical, innocent and beautiful ... or maybe they're beautiful coz they're magical and innocent? Erm, you're also quite a dreamer or escapist ... and tend to see the good in people, usually giving them the benefit of doubt? Wild guesses only hor.

But the icon you choose for your default icon (the one with the shapely bum in micro skirt) tells me you have a cheeky, mischevious, sexy side too ... and maybe a tad vain at times. LOL!

So how? "Jun" or not? ;)