the ongoing conversation ... today, it's responsive women

[burgunder]

one of those friends where
having talked at length
even after they go elsewhere
you keep talking

oh how i love those friends

i'm still continuing conversations with my aunt dot
even though she's been dead for a long time
because she was just exactly that thought-provoking and astute

last night lauren (dj_stitch) and i got on the subject

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Responsiveness

[abstractmonkeys]

"the most valued among us are the most responsive, i think
not just among bisexual women, but simply among women
perhaps simply among people, hell even among pets!"

That struck me as very insightful. I certainly share your admiration for a responsive woman, in fact it's near the top of my list for what I find attractive.

Due to various causes, both biological and societal, men generally find themselves in the role of suitor and women are the ones sought after. So it stands to reason that two women might both find themselves out of practice at instigating.

Isn't much of the leg work men need to go through obviated when the inherent risks of dating men are removed from the equation?

My experience is that you are very much an instigator by nature. You asked me out; you are constantly posing thought-provoking questions; you do an amazing job of staying out of your comfort zone and drawing me out of mine.

So, if I may be so bold, I think rather than a mutual lack of instigatorialosity, you might be describing being perpetually empathic with someone who has a lower energy level. That's a universal problem for humans trying to have relationships.