It’s a Black Thang!!! I hope you will Understand
I have wanted to talk about this for a while, but not sure how to do it. I was inspired by 2 comments that were made. One from a person I like and one that I don’t like.
It is related to Complex magazine Ja Rule …who I am not a fan of….made this lovely comment:
“And if it is, then we need to go step to Paramount, and @#*$ing MGM, and all of these other mother@#*$ers that's making all of these movies and we need to go step to MTV and Viacom, and lets talk about all these @#*$ing shows that they have on MTV that is promoting homosexuality, that my kids can't watch this @#!*. Dating shows that's showing two guys or two girls in mid afternoon. Let's talk about @#!* like that! If that's not @#*$ing up America, I don't know what is.”
….lovely words…..I read it before I go to sleepL
Obviously, some people were offended. And one of my friends …who I do like….said “his personality matches his skin color” Now I knew what he meant and totally agree with is aggravation. But if said I wasn’t hurt…..I would be lying.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people that say mean things to the gay community. And I hate to say it, but some of it comes from the black community. I was listing to a radio station the other day and it was hard to listen to the things that were said about gay people…and it was even more difficult because they were black males saying it. And this was after them talking about how they oppose white people using the n word ….yes I said n word…I am that corny.
My friend justified his comment because the majority of the black people in his area do not respect gay people. Which I am pretty sure what he is saying is true. But unfortunately innocent people get hurt with that kind of mentality. We lose so much from allowing “representative” to cloud our prospective of the entire group. And it become difficult because I get hurt by both communities that represent who I am.
Unfortunately, if you are not into the black culture, most of your perceptions will come from random encounters and what you see in the videos. And you rarely get to see things like my Mom. Whose second statement to me, after I came out was don’t let the nieces and nephews know. And now refers to my John as her son……No really!!!! And my Uncle who uses to refer to gay people as “THAT WAY”….and now says gay. My sister even knows what a BEAR is.
So, like anything it takes time, and A LOT of explaining. And I am sure everyone that reads this can cut and paste there own identity wows in this …whether it is being Latino, Lesbian, gay Christian ..etc. But more importantly it will take understanding for us to actually grow out of this.
Understand