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I've long suspected that I lack certain social graces. My opinion on tima's frantic, irrational post on some teenager's eating habits made me think about what I do that probably seems rude.
I waste food by not finishing what is on my plate - if I can't eat anymore I won't, even if it's one more bite, unless there is some extra factor (like it's extra yummy, or I really don't want to offend the hosts).
I don't generally offer help with dishes UNLESS I know the person well. I actually get annoyed when people who don't know my habits make themselves at home in my kitchen. Either I host a meal and take on the work, or I go somewhere else and that is done for me by the hosts. Close people are an exception as they may either know where I like things or I overlook the annoyance.
I forget things like telling someone about plans or when I've promised to call. I think there is an escape hatch in my head. When I was little, I literally used to hold the back of my head shut and turn a key when I really wanted to remember something.
I for some reason don't like calling people. Sometimes the phone is intimidating in some way. I haven't figured this one out yet.
I often misread social cues like when it would have been polite to invite someone somewhere, or express gratitude, or keep my mouth shut. It'll often dawn on me that I said or didn't say something about a half-hour later.
As a subset of the previous point, I just can't give compliments, and I'm not too good at receiving them graciously. Most people instinctively say things like "Nice haircut" or "what a beatiful outfit", but either I remind myself ahead if time that I need to make a compliment, and repeat it in my head over and over, or it just doesn't get done.
Anything else I do that seems rude to y'all? I probably either don't notice it's rude, or I have different standards. I don't mean to be rude. I also take criticism well, so if something is bugging you, let me know. Except the phone thing. I may need a therapist to discover some childhood trauma.
PS, this is somewhat tongue-in-cheek. I don't want therapist phone numbers :)
I waste food by not finishing what is on my plate - if I can't eat anymore I won't, even if it's one more bite, unless there is some extra factor (like it's extra yummy, or I really don't want to offend the hosts).
I don't generally offer help with dishes UNLESS I know the person well. I actually get annoyed when people who don't know my habits make themselves at home in my kitchen. Either I host a meal and take on the work, or I go somewhere else and that is done for me by the hosts. Close people are an exception as they may either know where I like things or I overlook the annoyance.
I forget things like telling someone about plans or when I've promised to call. I think there is an escape hatch in my head. When I was little, I literally used to hold the back of my head shut and turn a key when I really wanted to remember something.
I for some reason don't like calling people. Sometimes the phone is intimidating in some way. I haven't figured this one out yet.
I often misread social cues like when it would have been polite to invite someone somewhere, or express gratitude, or keep my mouth shut. It'll often dawn on me that I said or didn't say something about a half-hour later.
As a subset of the previous point, I just can't give compliments, and I'm not too good at receiving them graciously. Most people instinctively say things like "Nice haircut" or "what a beatiful outfit", but either I remind myself ahead if time that I need to make a compliment, and repeat it in my head over and over, or it just doesn't get done.
Anything else I do that seems rude to y'all? I probably either don't notice it's rude, or I have different standards. I don't mean to be rude. I also take criticism well, so if something is bugging you, let me know. Except the phone thing. I may need a therapist to discover some childhood trauma.
PS, this is somewhat tongue-in-cheek. I don't want therapist phone numbers :)