And fourth, I can tell you from experience that saying "Oh my GAWD you are SO ANTISOCIAL!!! Stop spending so much time in your room!!!" DOES NOT WORK. Fer serious. Mostly it just makes the introverted (NOT antisocial, antisocial people will actually do nasty stuff to you, not just stay out of the way) person feel even less capable of mixing (generally they will think 'You don't even seem to like me - what in the world do you want me to come out of my room for?'). Claudia is my favourite of the BSC girls but man, I look forward to the day when she grows up enough to see Janine's point of view, and understand that she was just being herself, not having a go at Claudia with everything she did. Actually, Claudia's whole 'you're doing this just to make me feel dumb!' and 'my family think my activities count for less!' thing is nearly as bad as Jessi's knee-jerk 'is it cos I is black?' reaction. Yes, she gets some pressure from her family, and yes, Jessi experiences some real discrimination, but 90% of their distress is manufactured in their own heads from their own insecurities.
Fer serious. Mostly it just makes the introverted (NOT antisocial, antisocial people will actually do nasty stuff to you, not just stay out of the way) person feel even less capable of mixing (generally they will think 'You don't even seem to like me - what in the world do you want me to come out of my room for?'). Claudia is my favourite of the BSC girls but man, I look forward to the day when she grows up enough to see Janine's point of view, and understand that she was just being herself, not having a go at Claudia with everything she did.
Actually, Claudia's whole 'you're doing this just to make me feel dumb!' and 'my family think my activities count for less!' thing is nearly as bad as Jessi's knee-jerk 'is it cos I is black?' reaction. Yes, she gets some pressure from her family, and yes, Jessi experiences some real discrimination, but 90% of their distress is manufactured in their own heads from their own insecurities.
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