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For those of you who have been keeping up with Betsey’s journal, it’s time for you to hear the other side of the story.
If Betsey knew that the living situation wasn’t going to work for her, she should have come to us early on. Instead of coming to us right away, she waited until the day we were going to sign the lease and blamed Katie and I for her unsatisfactory conditions, saying she didn’t want to live with us because she was doing all the work when it came to apartment hunting and we were irresponsible. What she failed to mention was that she had more spare time than Katie and I combined. Even so, we did our share. If we were so hell-bent on having the work done for us, we wouldn’t have found a place to live so quickly.
She also had the nerve to say that she didn’t want to be responsible for rounding up the rent every month, and making sure the garbage was taken out, etc. Basically, she didn’t feel that Katie and I were responsible enough to pay our own rent on time and take out the garbage on our own, and we would need her to remind us; we only need one landlord, and we don’t need a boss. Well guess what. Our rent is paid on time, our garbage is taken out, and our dishes are done, all without Betsey. Can you believe it?! A couple of college-aged girls with steady jobs can handle all that responsibility without needing a reminder from the oh-so-responsible Betsey?? Gasp!
Also, if she was so upset about doing all the work, then she wouldn’t have done all the work for her and Jeremy’s place. Seriously, she paid the deposit, set up all the utilities, and seemed to have no problem with letting Jeremy do nothing. What that means is that ultimately, she just wanted to live with Jeremy and only Jeremy, and would do whatever it took to get what she wanted, even if it meant alienating her friends. What it also means is that Betsey is a control freak and probably had no problem with taking on a lot of the “work” to begin with, proving that she lied to us.
“It sounds selfish to say ‘I changed my mind because I didn't want to do it anymore,’ but why is that something I should have compromised?”
If she said that early on instead of attacking our character and blaming us for her decision, we would have been more than understanding. Of course, we still would have been upset because our friend wouldn’t be living with us, but at least we wouldn’t have been wrongfully blamed and abandoned.
Regardless of how strained our friendship might have gotten if we all moved in to Lauren’s house, now we have no friendship. But at least Betsey got what she wanted, right? That’s all that really mattered to her. She is right when she says we are all happier in our current situations because we didn’t want to have her voice in the back of our head nagging at us to “do our chores.”
Moral Lesson: It is best to be up front with your problems as soon as they arise, especially in situations like ours; housing options in our price range were running low, and Betsey waited until the last possible second to tell us, leaving us high and dry.
Moral Lesson #2: If you make a commitment with someone, you have a duty to fulfill that commitment. If you must break the commitment, do it in a timely manner with a legitimate excuse.