Bad Romance (or, YA & Rape Culture)

[bookshop]

Once in a while every girl has to do something she knows is bad for her, even though she knows it's stupid and she'll probably regret it later. Last night I started reading the bestselling YA fantasy Hush, Hush, which friends and the internet have repeatedly assured me that I would hate. I had no intention of reading it until I randomly picked it

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[wednesdayschild]

This post is amazing

[bookshop]

Your comment is reminding me of this article on freaking CNN that I read and was appalled by, haha, because the article is like "here's how to save someone from suicide" while glossing over the fact that this guy she just met 3 days ago was breaking into her house, what the actual fuck. And the fact that they struck up a romance afterward just seemed like an all-too convenient happy ending to disguise the skeeviness involved in his HELLO BREAKING INTO HER HOUSE - like, because he saved her life/she said yes/fell in love that makes his initial behavior okay, and i'm not at all sure that it does.

[stasia]

*blink* The article says that he came around to her bedroom window and knocked on it, but not that he was attempting to break in. Or... am I mis-reading it?

Stasia

[bookshop]

knocking on her bedroom window wouldn't freak you out? especially considering he'd only met her like a couple of days before--if some dude i just met at a conference showed up at my house knocking on any of my doors or windows i would FREAK THE FUCK OUT, lol.

[stasia]

It did make me take notice, the knocking on the bedroom window, but it also said that though they'd met a few days before, she'd told him when they met that she was in bad straits and they'd communicated several times a day every day after they met.

I don't know - this one feels like a really grey area for me. I've been abused, and then I was in a long term emotionally abusive relationship, and yet I've felt instant connections with people, with men, and told them deeply personal things without fear that they were going to abuse my trust.

*sigh*

I'm just glad, I guess, that it seems to have turned out okay for those two.

Human relationships are so hard, sometimes.

Nice to meet you, though!

Stasia

[wednesdayschild]

I think you've pre-decided the circumstances, and suffered poor journalism.

[wednesdayschild]

Yep. I stopped going to parties and bars when I was in college because of things like that. I couldn't be there just to have a good time and enjoy some good music or whatever. I had to be "man hunting." At the time, I didn't drink (I was driving!) but some guy would invariably try to buy me a drink, I would say 'no' and he would harass me all night

[wednesdayschild]

That's half the reason I stopped going out to bars and clubs myself. I'm strong headed on my best days and my friends are well aware of it. However they do still think its more amusing than anything