Wedding bells
Let's say you have a grown child and have the ability--and desire--to help your engaged child pay for his/her wedding. You pay deposits for vendors and are not experiencing major financial hardship because of it. The day before the wedding, your grown child calls it off, and tearfully tells you he/she will pay you back every cent you spent. Paying it back will not be easy for your child.
Do you make your child pay you back? Are you angry with your child for not realizing this sooner, or just relieved he/she didn't make that relationship permanent? Does it matter if you thought the fiance was a total tool? How much of a role would you be willing to have in calling vendors, returning gifts, etc?
And flash forward to a few years later, and your child is engaged again. Do you wash your hands of it or try to help out again?
Do you make your child pay you back? Are you angry with your child for not realizing this sooner, or just relieved he/she didn't make that relationship permanent? Does it matter if you thought the fiance was a total tool? How much of a role would you be willing to have in calling vendors, returning gifts, etc?
And flash forward to a few years later, and your child is engaged again. Do you wash your hands of it or try to help out again?