A loving, financially stable couple has been waiting to adopt a baby for years. The couple is unable to have children for whatever reasons
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the money probably went to an agency that did the locating and legal stuff. they still did the work even if the birth mother changed her mind.
birth parents should be able to change their minds. i think 3 months is probably a reasonable upper limit.
there are a lot of risks inherent to adoption and to parenting in general. children don't come with guarantees. i think that adoptive parents need to go into the process understanding the risks and knowing that they could lose their investment and not end up with a baby. a safer bet would be to try to adopt a baby who is already born and available for adoption, but i think there are more hoops to jump through and fewer babies available... and you might end up with one that isn't ~*perfect*~ or who doesn't look like you.
ETA: i think that a nonrefundable deposit up front is reasonable to cover the expenses of the agency and then the rest of the money when the adoption is finalized would make sense.
i think 3 months is entirely too long if the child is to be in the custody of the adoptive parents during that period. they can't be expected to put their lives on hold for 90 days to care for a child that they can't get too attached to because the birth mother could change her mind and reclaim it. if that's the case, the babies need to go into foster care during the waiting period and not be placed with their adoptive parents until the relinquishment papers are signed.
it's an interesting idea. so long as everyone was fully informed and knew they were entering a fostering arrangement, i could see it being helpful, at least in some cases. i can see potential pitfalls, too. given my druthers, i would opt for an irrevocable relinquishment before placement and no fostering period, though.
i think adopting a baby who is already born and whose parents have already relinquished their rights is probably better in general, but i don't know how much harder that is to arrange.
birth parents should be able to change their minds. i think 3 months is probably a reasonable upper limit.
there are a lot of risks inherent to adoption and to parenting in general. children don't come with guarantees. i think that adoptive parents need to go into the process understanding the risks and knowing that they could lose their investment and not end up with a baby. a safer bet would be to try to adopt a baby who is already born and available for adoption, but i think there are more hoops to jump through and fewer babies available... and you might end up with one that isn't ~*perfect*~ or who doesn't look like you.
ETA: i think that a nonrefundable deposit up front is reasonable to cover the expenses of the agency and then the rest of the money when the adoption is finalized would make sense.
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