if I'm B, what are you?
So people constantly tell me that I must be a B-type (for the record, I'm not). And to some extent, maybe it's true. I am very chill about things I don't really care about, and I'm not a very precise or order-driven person, either.
But with things that carry responsibility -- school, actual work, promises to friends and whatnot -- I am incredibly serious! I am rarely late, I do things well in advance of deadlines (if I can help it), and I don't say or promise things I can't do or won't remember. On my own, I am also super stingy and anal about budgets.
So, friend came to live with me about three weeks ago because her apartment lease was up (saying that it'd be about a week). She texted me earlier this afternoon and was gone by evening.
I come back to find:
- random pieces of garbage in areas that are not the trash (empty toiletry bottles, plastic packages, etc.)
- unwanted things left behind (Pokemon stickers, loofah, books, bath supplies, food...)
- stuff plugged in (okay, so this is me being anal, but I unplug nearly everything every day, okay?)
- her futon as is (at least strip the sheets if you're not going to wash them!)
- bits of food on the counter/kitchen area
When I am a fucking guest, I never forget that I am putting a burden on other people. If I were leaving, I would clean everything I touched to the best of my ability and make it look like I was never there. I would buy a gift and/or write a thank you note. I do this every time I leave my grandma's house (minus gifts), and this is a house that no one lives in!
I realize that thinking this way is just going to stress me out, but how is it possible to be this oblivious and function fine in society, and where the hell do you get off telling me I'm B-like (in Japan this is just a nice way to say you're self-centered or don't play well with others) when you don't understand the concept of being considerate?
If you don't even recognize these things, there is no way you can appreciate someone who does -- and appreciation was really the only way you could recoup those lost points.
But with things that carry responsibility -- school, actual work, promises to friends and whatnot -- I am incredibly serious! I am rarely late, I do things well in advance of deadlines (if I can help it), and I don't say or promise things I can't do or won't remember. On my own, I am also super stingy and anal about budgets.
So, friend came to live with me about three weeks ago because her apartment lease was up (saying that it'd be about a week). She texted me earlier this afternoon and was gone by evening.
I come back to find:
- random pieces of garbage in areas that are not the trash (empty toiletry bottles, plastic packages, etc.)
- unwanted things left behind (Pokemon stickers, loofah, books, bath supplies, food...)
- stuff plugged in (okay, so this is me being anal, but I unplug nearly everything every day, okay?)
- her futon as is (at least strip the sheets if you're not going to wash them!)
- bits of food on the counter/kitchen area
When I am a fucking guest, I never forget that I am putting a burden on other people. If I were leaving, I would clean everything I touched to the best of my ability and make it look like I was never there. I would buy a gift and/or write a thank you note. I do this every time I leave my grandma's house (minus gifts), and this is a house that no one lives in!
I realize that thinking this way is just going to stress me out, but how is it possible to be this oblivious and function fine in society, and where the hell do you get off telling me I'm B-like (in Japan this is just a nice way to say you're self-centered or don't play well with others) when you don't understand the concept of being considerate?
If you don't even recognize these things, there is no way you can appreciate someone who does -- and appreciation was really the only way you could recoup those lost points.