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No one looks at the male "survivor" and respects them for admitting it, admitting how much it wrecked them, how much it still hurts, how much it still affects them til this day
The male "survivor" is the male VICTIM forever. The male "survivor" is weak, worthless, useless, a pitiful disgrace to humans, it's his fault he wasn't strong enough, he needs to be a "man" and get over it, it's his fault it happened, he deserves no respect for letting it happen..letting it break him..letting it change him..letting it scar him.
No woman looks for the male "survivor", because it's supposed to be men who look to be the hero of the weak and the women who look to be the saved (or possibly look to be a victim again..and again..and again). It's supposed to be the man keeping the woman safe..the man making the woman feel secure. The man who protects them.
The man who is broken is not a man that can turn women on, because only men can come to love "damaged goods".
So..when you're a male "survivor" you often question.."am I even a man..at all?.." "Everyone loves me so much but 'not like that' why? What did I ever do wrong?" "Why isn't my love, understanding, intelligence, friendliness, kindness, courage..or anything else I have ever enough?" "..why can't I be traumatized too without losing respect? Why can't I hurt and be broken too without people looking down on me with pity and going 'you poor poor thing ~head pat~'?" "Why am I constantly being punished and punishing myself for something that was not my fault?!?!?!"
"I am forever a victim" says he "and in this world..a victim I shall remain.."
The male "survivor" is the male VICTIM forever. The male "survivor" is weak, worthless, useless, a pitiful disgrace to humans, it's his fault he wasn't strong enough, he needs to be a "man" and get over it, it's his fault it happened, he deserves no respect for letting it happen..letting it break him..letting it change him..letting it scar him.
No woman looks for the male "survivor", because it's supposed to be men who look to be the hero of the weak and the women who look to be the saved (or possibly look to be a victim again..and again..and again). It's supposed to be the man keeping the woman safe..the man making the woman feel secure. The man who protects them.
The man who is broken is not a man that can turn women on, because only men can come to love "damaged goods".
So..when you're a male "survivor" you often question.."am I even a man..at all?.." "Everyone loves me so much but 'not like that' why? What did I ever do wrong?" "Why isn't my love, understanding, intelligence, friendliness, kindness, courage..or anything else I have ever enough?" "..why can't I be traumatized too without losing respect? Why can't I hurt and be broken too without people looking down on me with pity and going 'you poor poor thing ~head pat~'?" "Why am I constantly being punished and punishing myself for something that was not my fault?!?!?!"
"I am forever a victim" says he "and in this world..a victim I shall remain.."