Change doesn't happen right away, Richard. It's hard to do things differently, to try and alter a part of who you are. I think the fact that you acknowledge what and why you want to change is a big step in and of itself.
I've wanted to be more confident in myself for years and it's never really worked out for me. That doesn't mean I'm not trying, it's just hard to go against your nature. It took meeting someone who had so much confidence in me, someone who wasn't obligated to show me they believed in me, for me to start feeling like I owed myself something. Despite all that, I still, very easily, slip back into a state of self degradation. I'm confident sometimes, but most of the time, I'm not. That's just who I am.
That doesn't mean you can't start standing up for yourself. Start small, though. Feeling pressured by having a van hug your butt while you're on a bike is something everyone would feel. Bike vs. Van...not a good idea. That's different than letting someone talk shit about you or tell you you're not good enough to do something.
And about that test...I have a physics test next week and I have yet to start memorizing the equations for the 6 chapters it will cover. I don't even know how to do half of the homework problems. Now that's just bad. You're always going to feel like you could study more for something. Just do the best you can and treat life as a learning experience. You got through high school very well, right? So your study method worked back then; see if it works now. Don't get yourself too down about being human.
I've wanted to be more confident in myself for years and it's never really worked out for me. That doesn't mean I'm not trying, it's just hard to go against your nature. It took meeting someone who had so much confidence in me, someone who wasn't obligated to show me they believed in me, for me to start feeling like I owed myself something. Despite all that, I still, very easily, slip back into a state of self degradation. I'm confident sometimes, but most of the time, I'm not. That's just who I am.
That doesn't mean you can't start standing up for yourself. Start small, though. Feeling pressured by having a van hug your butt while you're on a bike is something everyone would feel. Bike vs. Van...not a good idea. That's different than letting someone talk shit about you or tell you you're not good enough to do something.
And about that test...I have a physics test next week and I have yet to start memorizing the equations for the 6 chapters it will cover. I don't even know how to do half of the homework problems. Now that's just bad. You're always going to feel like you could study more for something. Just do the best you can and treat life as a learning experience. You got through high school very well, right? So your study method worked back then; see if it works now. Don't get yourself too down about being human.
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